Four Beautiful Buddhist Teachings about Love

Buddhism teaches us to love one another on a deeper, more spiritual level. By accepting this as part of who you are and working for the well-being and freedom of others, you will grow more as a person.
Four Beautiful Buddhist Teachings about Love
Valeria Sabater

Written and verified by psychologist Valeria Sabater.

Last update: 01 August, 2022

The concept of love that Buddhism offers us is very different from the classic image of romantic love, which the world of literature and film has translated into a series of misconceptions, some of which can even be painful. In this article, learn about the Buddhist teachings about love.

Setting aside whether you are spiritual, religious, atheist, or agnostic – or a bit of everything – it’s always good to learn about different approaches to seeing the same reality because it can enrich you personally.

Love is and will always be a complex and exciting dimension. It’s something that we often think about, so it’s worth getting to know some interesting theories that can help you grow on the inside and in turn, cultivate happier, healthier relationships.

Buddhism is one way to do this. That’s why we want to share some of the pillars of this faith that are magical and wise, and propose that you reflect on them for a few minutes.

Buddhist Teachings about Love

In Buddhist teachings and different manifestations of this ancient religion, love is, above all, part of your internal being – both that of you and your partner.

It’s interesting to learn that to Buddha, love was a subtle and wonderful blend of joy and compassion.

At the same time, remember that in this spiritual approach, no one should exalt themselves above others or feel the need to “cling” to anything or anyone. This “detachment” is part of the essential freedom of the human soul to flow and advance along the wheel of life and through each cycle that comes.

Detachment, however, does not mean that you shouldn’t be with your loved ones.

In Buddhism, love means to appreciate another person with joy and respect, but at the same time allow for the personal growth of the person you love.

This is where we find one of the most beautiful aspects of this view.

Let’s explore it in more detail.

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1. Unconditional goodness

Buddhist teachings remind us that one of the main pillars of your life should be goodness.

The act of being noble of heart and mind means that we do the best we can for ourselves, while also respecting and caring for those who surround us.

When it comes to love, this is especially true, because it’s where unconditional goodness should be most clearly expressed and needed.

Being a respectful couple and caring for each other’s welfare while finding a personal balance by being noble in your actions and words is a value neither of you should neglect.

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2. The capacity for joy and happiness for the person you love

Love, when it’s true, is mature and wise and will never bring sorrow or tears. The person who wants to make you happy should never make you cry.

Buddhist texts remind us that in order to love someone, you have to observe them and find out what makes them happy.

This understanding becomes the road on which two people meet. To further this mutual understanding, you should be able to enjoy your time together, whether it be talking with joy or observing in silence.

At the same time, Buddhist teachings also remind us that we need to be about to enjoy solitude before entering a relationship. Only calm and happy hearts are able to give the best of themselves.

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3. Compassion

Compassion should be understood as a noble and sincere desire to alleviate the suffering of another person.

Buddhist teachings remind us that in order to find the reason for your loved one’s suffering, sometimes words are not enough. Words may not always be sincere or brave.

You must learn to observe and to develop the empathy that enables your eyes to read another’s soul. As you may already guess, this spiritual approach also invites you to learn to meditate.

Only when you find your own inner balance and peace can you connect with others in their emotional worlds.

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4. Fairness and freedom

This is an important and complex aspect of relationships.

If you love someone, how do you promote their freedom? How do you create a space where you can both be together but at the same time be free to grow?

It’s important to look at things in a relative sense. To start with, true love should always be offered with total freedom.
“I love you because I also love myself, and I feel free to love you and assist you with your growth as well as my own.”

Personal freedom is, as we said, an exceptional value, and although it may seem difficult to put into practice, it can help you achieve more mature relationships.

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It’s important to create a common space in your relationship while also understanding that the other person should be able to continue to grow. It’s a path that you follow together, hand in hand, but freely at the same time.

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