You might identify with a lot of people that have had to deal with a toxic family, because toxic families are more common than one might think.
You sometimes aren’t even aware of it when you find yourself completely submerged in it.
A complicated situation, a type of toxicity that you can’t escape from, that you can’t avoid. But did you know that toxic families can generate, or create, mental disorders?
We need to take a deeper look at this.
Toxic families and mental problems
Family is very important. It’s where children are educated and start to acquire certain abilities to communicate with others.
That’s why it’s not hard to see how too much toxicity could create severe disorders if there is no balance or healthy emotions available.
There are several types of families, but only destructive families with severe problems with being overprotective, or other circumstances, are able to negatively affect small children. This later causes the children to suffer from psychological disorders without fully understanding the cause of them.
That’s why we’re going to talk about some of the most interesting and real relationships between toxic families and these mental problems. Let’s take a look!
1. The Pygmalion Effect and its influence on children
The Pygmalion Effect is simply the roles that children adopt by being influenced by their parents. This means that everything a parent wants or fears for their children, the children convert this into their reality.
That’s why every time you label your child, telling them things like “you’re so lazy” and “you have a bad personality,” it can severely impact the child.
Families still aren’t aware of just how much they affect children. They don’t realize that any label they provide, the child can adopt at a later time. In some ways, this contaminates their behavior.
2. Lethal loves
There is a phrase that a lot of parents or families say to their children: “No one could love you more than we do.” If you take this literally, it could cause them to feel like, even though they feel very loved within the family, they don’t deserve to be loved any more than that.
The big problem with this is that it generally causes them to be silent in the most extreme of situations, such as emotional abuse or mistreatment.
It’s important to know that family love can be unhealthy, and that’s why you need to question it. Families are not good just by being your family. Sometimes they are very toxic.
3. Overprotective parents
Overprotection can cause problems like emotional dependency, which means that the smaller children will continue to struggle with it even into their adult years. That’s why it is important to maintain balance and never get to the point of overprotection.
Do you want an insecure child? Do you want to raise someone who doesn’t have confidence in themselves? Because that is what overprotection causes, along with other severe emotional problems that are not easily fixed.
Everything that happens in childhood affects us.
4. Projected wants and insecurities
How many times have you seen a couple’s crisis put the children in the middle of it? Even though you don’t want to admit it, our problems often times absorb so much of us, that we ignore the children in the house, which truly affects everyone.
A lot of families also release their frustrations and insecurities on the kids, which puts them under a lot of pressure. Pressure they shouldn’t have to feel! They are not responsible for problems between adults.
All of these situations could lead to depression, limited personality disorders, situations of dependency, and a lot of other psychoses that become very complicated and hard in one’s adult life.
Have you been involved in a toxic family? What problems did it cause you? We can’t choose our family, but at least we can choose to be aware of their problems, to prevent repeating history with our own children.
So think more about that; your problems are not more important than theirs.