Teach Your Children to Dream, not Fear

· August 23, 2016
As often as you can, tuck your children in bed at night and create a lasting bond so that they’ll grow up to be strong, healthy adults

Teaching  your children to dream doesn’t mean encouraging them to keep their feet off the ground so they can’t see life with objectivity and responsibility.

This kind of education means to allow them to have dreams that they wish to achieve, to feel free to create their own horizons.

An upbringing where fear is present first creates insecurity and uncertainty that puts shackles on your child’s heart and feet.

Fear causes pain and wounds, and will never be educational.

While it’s true that none of us are experts in terms of pedagogy or child psychology, what we do know is that every child has a need, and there’s no better response to that need than what is offered from the heart: being close to them, an exceptional guide who wants to invest in their happiness and never their fears.

Today we want to delve a little deeper into this interesting topic: the value of educating in “dreams”

Take care of your children – they’re very fragile…and this is what dreams are made of

The brain of a child is eager to learn, experience, perceive, feel, and dream. Their neuroplasticity is simply amazing, and it will remain so until they are around four or five years old.

Everything that occurs during this early childhood will undoubtedly leave a lasting imprint on their brain. Therefore, it’s vital that during this time you care for that bond, fostering a healthy and unique attachment where your child feels loved and secure.

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It’s possible that the statement we made earlier caught your attention: are children really made of fragile material? In a way, yes – for the following reasons.

  • The impact of a child’s first life experiences can determine their future development.
  • A child who is not answered when crying, for example, tends to grow up with significantly higher levels of stress.
  • A baby who is not held, cuddled, or feel the flesh of its mother and affection of its father or other parent, will not establish the same number of neural connections as an infant who has continuous attention and contact.

Children are more fragile than you think because they interpret the world according to the stimuli they receive. That’s why it’s so important to be very careful and wise.

2 babyPositive reinforcement, illusion, and dreams

Educating your children takes time, patience, and a lot of wishful thinking on your part. Now something that happens very often is that doubt creeps in.

Will I be a good mother? Will I be a good father to my child?

Don’t obsess over these questions. Sometimes the parent who is guided by their own instincts is always the most successful.

This is because their intentions are guided by love, along with an intimate connection of affection with the child that no one else can understand

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  • Education without fear. The first thing that a child will need who is already open to the world, starting to walk, talk, and interact with their environment is the security of hands that attend to them and words that encourage them to explore, discover, play, and have fun.
  • The life of a child must be a lot like a game. It’s a way to transform their reality and understand it as they go along. Encourage these moments and share them.
  • Create dreams using toys, books, running in the streets, getting your hands dirty with mud, the earth, and flowers.
  • The more experiences and conversations you have, the more dreams you will transmit. If you only put up barriers, filling their life with silence and saying “don’t be annoying, not now,” “I don’t have time right now,” “you’re always coming to me with nonsense…”

Eventually that child will grow up with the fear of feeling unimportant.

This is something you shouldn’t do. The best gift you can give your child is known as “time.”

3 mother and childUnderstand and help your child face their fears

You must consider this. The world of a child is very complex, and although you care for every aspect and detail, as parents it’s impossible to cover all aspects of their life.

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  • When they attend school they might be bullied and develop certain fears and anxieties…it’s important to be vigilant.
  • Don’t hesitate to establish a time each day to talk with your child about how their day went.
  • Before they go to bed, for example, you can have a relaxed conversation without judgment, using your intuition and giving them a space in which they feel they can speak.

It doesn’t matter if they’re four years old, or 14. They always need your help. You must be there for them.