Love is the engine that fuels the bond between parents and their children.
Every child that comes into the world has a need for more than just food, shelter and security. Love is so necessary that if absent or insufficient in a child’s life, it causes serious problems in their development.
You may have heard of attachment disorder before. It’s a delicate and complex issue that deserves further exploration in order to fully understand it.
Today on our page, we’d like to invite you to explore this interesting topic with us. Nourishing children with love every day – with unconditional love – will give them the strength and guidance they need to grow into mature, responsible adults who are architects of their own happiness.
The delicate, yet powerful, bond between a parent and their child
The ties between a mother and her child begin in the uterus with the umbilical cord which provides nourishment to the developing child.
The warm refuge of the womb also serves to transmit emotions between the two to further deepen this bond.
The bond that begins at birth
In recent years, it was discovered just how important it is for newborn babies to spend as much time close to their mother’s skin as possible.
Births nowadays follow so many different protocols that the baby will often be held by many different hands before finally being given to the mother after she awakes from the anesthesia.
Many studies have been conducted on this subject with the following conclusions:
- The newborn must be in contact with the mother’s skin for the emotional bond to form.
- Babies take in the world through their senses, and the temperature of the mother’s chest provides the child with a warm sense of security that immediately calms the child.
- The mother’s brain instantly releases oxytocin, which is a hormone directly associated with love and the need for care and affection between mother and child.
- When a baby nurses for the first time from its mother, the oxytocin it releases causes the mother’s body to produce more milk.
It’s essential for a baby to remain in contact with its mother’s skin. It’s an exceptional way to build a relationship.
We all know that factors like abandonment, the lack of genuine affection, abuse or an unstable upbringing full of ups and down with no sense of security can lead to a child with severe emotional problems.
Attachment disorder occurs as the result of traumatic breaks in the emotional bond between child and parent during the earliest stages of their development.
This all has serious consequences on the child’s development, often leading to conditions like hyperactivity, post-traumatic stress disorder, feelings of anger…
Now, what may be harder to believe is that children can sometimes suffer from a perceived lack of care. For example, consider the following situations:
- Some children are left in daycare starting from a very early age due to their parents’ responsibilities to hold down a job. This, however, causes a great deal of anxiety for them.
- Every child has their own needs. And in a family with several children, this can arouse jealousy and the need to receive “more affection” than others.
- Some children must spend time after birth in an incubator which can induce a stress response as a result of being separated from the mother.
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Many different situations can lead to an “attachment disorder” in a child.
We shouldn’t blame ourselves. As we mentioned, some children have more needs than others and this is something that every parent should be aware of.
Nourish your children with love and their fears will starve
We can fight attachment disorder with genuine affection and a strong, healthy bond based on respect and security that can be reinforced in the following ways:
- Maintain physical contact with your newborn: breastfeeding is really positive, along with caresses, hugs, loving words…
- Tend to your baby’s cries.
- As they grow, don’t hesitate to let them know that you care. Talk to them, answer their hundreds of questions, let go of your fears, give wings to their dreams, offer them security and the tools they need to strengthen their self-esteem.
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The bond between parent and child is an invisible tie nourished by love. It’s the umbilical cord that will always keep them together.
A strong, loving bond creates strong, loving children and gives them the courage they need to follow their dreams.