Self-esteem is the appreciation or regard we have for ourselves. The death of a family member, heartbreak, or other situations that hit us hard can cause our self-esteem to falter.
However, just because it waivers, doesn’t mean that it is completely destroyed, as happens in certain situations where everything is out of our hands.
The lack of decision making, unresolved problems, and the accumulation of emotions can all be factors that lead to a tremendous feeling of unhappiness that derives from low self-esteem.
Raise Your Self Esteem to Achieve Happiness
Being happy isn’t just feeling at peace by realizing all of the good around us that makes us feel good on the inside and in harmony with everyone and everything around us.
Instead, our beliefs, issues that we’ve had since childhood, and the blows that life gives us, can send our self-esteem spiraling into a bottomless pit.
What causes our self-esteem to be so low is that we occasionally take refuge in victimhood and complaining, and unconsciously, we look to our comfort zone for help.
All of a sudden we put our lives on pause. We don’t live our lives fully, fear surrounds us, insecurity overtakes us, and time passes by us as if it wasn’t worth a thing.
However, the ones that aren’t valuing anything is ourselves, we hurt ourselves thinking this is true and behaving in a way that is damaging to our well-being.
How many times have you been in a toxic relationship that you didn’t know how to end? How many times have people humiliated you and you just stood there not knowing what to do?
The fear, doubts, shame, thinking if it’s “appropriate or not”, “how will the other person take it”, “what will become of my life” or “I can’t live without..” are the type of thoughts that sabotage our self esteem and make us feel bad inside.
Make Yourself a Priority, Everyone Else Comes Second
If there is something that significantly affects your self-esteem, it is believing you are not enough. Not knowing your worth or value causes you to think about others before thinking about yourself.
Others deserve everything, but you don’t; you should love others, but you don’t deserve to be loved… these type of thoughts cause you to wait for others to give you what you don’t give yourself.
When you don’t give yourself a priority and push yourself to the side, you suffer. Your self-esteem hits rock bottom and with that attitude, you won’t be able to lift yourself up.
It’s possible that you think you are being egotistical for making yourself a priority, for thinking about your well-being before thinking of that of others.
However, if you are not ok, how are you going to help others be ok? At the cost of your own happiness? By sacrificing yourself? What do you gain from that?
Nobody is going to look after you, love you, or value you like you deserve if you don’t do it yourself first.
More than anything because you can’t give what you don’t have. Every time you love, it will be empty, because you can’t give something you don’t give to yourself because you simply won’t have it!
Will You Choose to be Happy?
The majority of problems that arise in our relationships, those that become a cycle that we don’t see the way out of, may have something to do with our self-esteem.
That’s why we have to pay special attention to it because if we feel bad, that means there is something on the inside we need to fix.
We cannot wait for others to do it for us or ignore the fact that we are pouring into others, giving them what we don’t give ourselves.
This is suicide.
We will feed into our sadness, emptying ourselves and converting ourselves into a black hole that absorbs all of the negativity surrounding us.
Your self-esteem is the key to your happiness, but for that, you have to truly see yourself, make yourself a priority, value yourself and heal yourself of everything that is hurting you.
There is no point in pouring into others when you don’t pour into yourself. You are the most important person who you will spend the rest of your life with.
Take care of yourself, because if you don’t do it, no one else will do it for you.