Practice Self-Love and You’ll Be Loved as You Wish to Be

· November 11, 2016

Making the mistake of measuring your worth by how much you’re loved by others can often lead to a great deal of disappointment.

This means that, if you’ve received false love or affection based on pain and manipulation then you’ll end up believing that you don’t deserve to be loved.

These are very complex and destructive situations, which no one has prepared us for.

In fact, it’s funny that we teach children where to find the world’s capital cities but we don’t teach them how to practice self-love.

In other words, we don’t teach them how to see themselves for the exceptional beings that they are, and that, they certainly deserve better than what they think they deserve.

Therefore, today’s article will be about the topic of self-love. We’ll specifically talk about how to practice self-love often, and to teach these same strategies to children.

Love yourself, because no one deserves as much attention in your life as you do

Society often teaches us a value that can turn out to be a double-edged sword: self-love. Loving the reflection in the mirror is sometimes seen as egotistical.

They tell us to be thankful, to let people exit a room before we enter, to help thy neighbor, to give everything for those we love…

It’s true that all these may be honorable actions that we shouldn’t stop practicing. However, we should also teach ourselves what integrity, self-love, and self-esteem are.

Don’t measure yourself based on what you receive

Imagine that a child was bullied at school. Now imagine this child is always alone at home. She doesn’t receive the appropriate affection and attention from her parents.

Now imagine this same child as an adult. Think about her efforts to maintain happy emotional, mature and enriching relationships. If she doesn’t achieve this, she will probably end up thinking that she’s a person who doesn’t deserve to be loved.

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Even though this seems harsh, many people have experiences like this.

It’s true that having a traumatic childhood doesn’t definitely mean that we’ll have negative emotional relationships. However, it’s a factor that bears considerable weight when determining the quality of our future relationships.

  • We shouldn’t measure our worth based on what we receive.
  • Love yourself everyday like you deserve, and don’t wait for others to give you what you’ve been waiting for.
  • Don’t seek constant approval for your actions and thoughts. You’re your own judge. That’s right, you’re the the person who must give life, support and effort in every action you decide to carry out.
  • If your childhood and teenage years were not happy times in your life, try to separate the past from the present. You already know what it means to grow up without healthy, stable and affectionate love, so  leave this in the past.
  • Heal your wounds by practicing self-love. Pamper yourself and protect yourself from things that could harm you, but also embark on new paths that lead to the hope of becoming better each day.

Attract what you deserve.

You deserve a lot more than what some people give you

Sometimes we simply don’t give up on people. Despite not precisely being happy with a certain relationship, we say to ourselves “that’s life. I’m not gonna find anything better. This is better than being alone.”

  • Whether we want this or not, emotional stagnation clings to this implicit and subtle suffering that undermines our self-esteem.

Unfortunately, we get used to the emptiness, the regrets, the contempt and even the unhappiness. This is something dangerous, given that we lose everything when defeatism creeps into our life.

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You deserve a lot more than what some people give you. Even if you believe it or not, this is because there are some people who don’t know how to love others and who don’t understand what reciprocity is, which are the two cornerstones of sincere love.

This type of person doesn’t worry about and make an effort to bring smiles and not tears to the relationship.

  • You shouldn’t get involved in these types of relationships. Love should bring joy and not sorrow. Be brave and leave behind the pain you’ve experienced so that you can get back your integrity.
  • Integrity means finding a link between what we deserve, what we feel and what we do in our daily lives. In other words, it’s a balance between mind, heart, and action.
  • Really love yourself like you deserved to be love, even if you have to spend some time alone for a while. This option will always be better than living with a false friend that hurts us.

You’re someone wonderful who deserves the best in life. Fight for this, fight for yourself and fight for those you love.