Stop Filling Your Life with Empty People
There are empty people everywhere. However, it’s our decision whether or not to let them into our lives. This is because we choose who we have by our side and this usually shows our emotional balance or unbalance.
We’ve all felt an unexplained emptiness inside of us that we feel needs to be filled with something external. Thus, we attach ourselves to empty people who don’t do anything except enhance that terrible feeling.
Empty people who leave us with nothing
Empty people are characterized by the fact that they don’t give us anything.
Instead, we suffer burnout and increase that internal emptiness that we don’t dare investigate to find its origin.
We use empty people as patches. Although they help us feel better for a little while, sooner or later reality comes to light.
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We begin to wonder why only people with no substance enter into our lives, people who hurt us, and who don’t fill the emptiness that we’re so anxious to fill.
Without even realizing it, we project our needs onto other people. This is why empty people come into our lives.
However, being conscious of this is difficult because we refuse to admit that we’re the ones who attract the same type of people over and over again. This is not a coincidence. This should tell us something!
By not paying attention or doing our research, our life will keep passing by and the same type of people will keep entering it until we realize that there’s something we need to fix.
Only you can fill the emptiness that dominates you
Where can you find the solution? How can you keep empty people from coming into your life? You need to heal the wound, that could come from your childhood, and that has caused the emptiness and terrible despair.
For that, you should stop looking for happiness from the outside and stop depending on everyone else’s emotional state.
How many times have you felt desolate when someone doesn’t reply to your message right away? How many times have you felt that your life is lost now that you’ve lost the person you professed to love for eternity?
Letting go is something that terrifies you, precisely due to that emptiness that you try to fill at all costs. However, everything around you is pointing to the fact that you’re the problem.
Direct the time you freely offer to everyone else and all that kindness and concern to yourself.
It will seem strange, but you can’t wait for others to give you what you need. If you do, then you’ll continue to be deceived and disillusioned.
The road isn’t easy, but sooner or later you’ll have no choice but to face the emptiness you’re avoiding.
Fill yourself with happiness and self-love without waiting for others to give that to you. It’s like taking care of a wound. You have to heal yourself because no one can do it for you.
Fill yourself with happiness, start with you.
Think about yourself before thinking of everyone else.
It’s time for you to think just of yourself, because if you don’t you’ll continue to depend on other people, and in the long run, this will only make the emptiness you feel inside worse. At first, it’ll be very hard. However, with determination and effort you’ll accomplish it.
Society has made us believe that looking out for ourselves and making ourselves a priority is egotistical. Society teaches us only to look out for others and to think only of others!
However, now you know that you need to fill the emptiness by loving yourself, being kind to yourself, and being concerned with yourself.
No one else exists, only you. Don’t deny yourself all the good you give to others. You deserve it more than anyone!
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