Before I Fall in Love with You, I Need to Love Myself

· July 13, 2016
Before I can be happy and give the best of myself to those I love I need to love myself and become the most important person in my life

I’d been taught how to fall in love, but no one taught me that I needed to love myself first.

I was told that everyone has a soulmate who will make them happy and complete, but no one told me that I needed to love myself before I could fall in love with someone else.

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All of us have been deceived when it comes to infatuation, which surprisingly, can’t happen if we don’t learn to love ourselves first.

So…you might have the same question: How can you fall in love with someone if you don’t first love yourself?

You can’t live without yourself

You’re not able to live without the person you profess to love so much? Do you think that if you tried to go on with your life the world would fall apart?

Something that you are failing to realize is the fact that the only person you can’t live without is you.

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Humans tend to have an almost disturbing lack of self-esteem that leads them to take refuge in the love that comes from someone else. This, rather than being something positive, can lead to problems related to emotional dependency.

It’s a beautiful thing to love someone so much that your life becomes meaningless without them. But you know fully well that the person you need to love first is yourself.

If you can’t love yourself or trust yourself, how can you do so with others?

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No doubt you feel lonely at times or afraid. You’re outside of everything you’ve been taught and you’re learning to love as you truly should.

Start with yourself first, then love others. Let us be clear: the only person you cannot live without is yourself.

Loving yourself is the first step

Maybe you’re wondering how it’s possible to fall in love with yourself. No one has taught you how to do this and honestly, it can be very difficult to achieve, but it’s not impossible. We hope the tips we give you today will help you love yourself more.

What’s important here is you.

3 butterflyDon’t be afraid of the loneliness

It’s easy to have an unfounded fear of being alone because you’ve been taught that solitude is a sign of unhappiness. If you can’t be happy when you’re alone, however, you have a problem.

Is it true that you can’t be happy alone, or is that just what others have made you believe?

Take advantage of your solitude to devote your time entirely to yourself. You can learn a lot: your self-esteem will increase, you’ll trust in yourself, you’ll love yourself unconditionally…

Don’t waste your solitude because that’s where you’ll find yourself and – as you’ve already learned – that’s where you’ll learn to love yourself.

Overcome appearances

To love yourself is to ignore appearances. Something as superficial as concern about what you look like to others can lead to problems with insecurity. If you know who you are and what you want, you won’t care what anyone else says.

Take care of your friends

Sometimes when you’re part of a couple it’s easy to ignore your friends, but that’s something you should never do. Couples will come and go, but friends, if you care for them, are there forever.

Never value love over a friendship. It’s not worth it.

When you love and value yourself you’ll realize that you can be happy without someone by your side, and you’ll see that life doesn’t start and end with your partner.

You have friends, on the other hand, who won’t fail you and whom you can trust. These are indeed the people you should appreciate.

4 heart of flowersDon’t give up everything for other people

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Do everything for yourself, but not for others. You’re the one who really matters, and you need to move forward to achieve your goals while trusting, loving, valuing, and respecting yourself.

Never give up everything for someone else because only you will suffer.

Given all of this, you might think you’re being a selfish person. Maybe you don’t see that you’re actually being generous – all you need is some time to yourself.

Whenever you lose sight of this, repeat these words: “Before I fall in love with you, I’ll love myself.” So that you can truly love other people…so you can be happy.