Low Self-Esteem: When You Turn into Your Own Enemy

03 January, 2019
This article discusses the effects of having low self-esteem, its influence on our emotional balance, and ways to fight it.

Your emotional balance depends heavily on your self-esteem. Having low self-esteem can negatively affect all aspects of your life. But that’s not even the worst of it. Did you know that having low self-esteem can turn you into your own worst enemy?

Self-esteem is something that is in your hands only, but we often consciously allow others to manipulate it.

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Low self-esteem can paralyze you

Self-esteem is very important for your overall well-being, a fact that can’t be overstated. However, many people suffer from low self-esteem, which can cause a great deal of suffering.

A man in a prison over a brain.

Low self-esteem can paralyze someone. When you don’t have a good image of yourself, you won’t be able to act in a positive manner. Thus, it’ll be very difficult for you to even get out of bed, everything will affect you negatively, and you’ll become more vulnerable to everything.

Frustration and bad feelings can eventually lead to bigger problems like depression. That’s why it’s important to find out where the problem with your self-esteem is coming from and how to solve it.

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Do you not know how? Are there deeper problems that you’re trying to identify? If this is your case, it’s important to consider seeing a professional psychologist that can help you uncover the real problems.

Don’t let your low self-esteem paralyze you. You deserve to be happy!

The opinions that affect you

One of the first things that can trigger self-esteem is the value you place on other peoples’ opinions of you. The worst thing you can do is take their opinions to heart because this can lead to unnecessary suffering.

A person crying.

Why do you give so much importance to other people’s opinions? Because you’ve been taught to seek others’ approval and to desire their positive responses. Thus, a negative reaction would indicate that you’re doing something wrong.

But guess what? Reality doesn’t work like that. The most serious problem arises when your self-image is affected by others’ opinions. This can make you change your perception of yourself and repress your self-esteem.

In order to see things in perspective, you need to distance yourself a bit. Your negative emotions can cloud your views of reality. Think about whether others’ opinions are true and if you feel as though you’re heading in the right direction. You’ll be surprised by what you discover!

Stop being your own worst enemy

A woman looking into the mirror.

As you’ve seen, it’s possible to wind up becoming your own worst enemy. You assume that everything you see and hear is true and you turn against yourself.

What can you do to stop this cycle? Is there any way to boost your self-esteem? Let’s review some simple tips that you can put in practice today!

  • Set realistic goals.
  • Be aware of your own limitations.
  • Appreciate all of your qualities.
  • Treat yourself with love and be positive.
  • Accept constructive criticism.
  • Give yourself time.
  • Try to be more assertive.
  • Get plenty of exercise.
  • Never compare yourself to other people.

There are plenty of additional tips we could include, but these are the small steps you can take that may help you reach a turning point between who you were and who you want to be. Trusting yourself isn’t always easy, but it’s never impossible!

In addition to this, you should share your goals with your friends or family. Sometimes we think we can do everything ourselves or we don’t want to bother other people with our problems. However, talking things through can help us find solutions faster.

A person sitting in front of a lake.
Have you ever been your own worst enemy? What was causing your low self-esteem?

It’s perfectly normal to feel low from time to time, but prolonging this state of mind will never be beneficial to you. Learn to believe in yourself and you’ll never become your own enemy.

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