Broken Souls: the Reality of Psychologically Abused People
People with broken souls have been that way since their souls were broken at an early age.
For instance, people who have broken souls may have been abused by their parents, they may have received a lack of affection or even indifference from their parents.
As the years go, these children, now older, start “mature” relationships. However, these relationships don’t live up to what we often read in books or see in romantic movies.
It all started in their childhood and continued during their adolescence. The big question is, can broken souls be mended?
Are you aware of how you want to live?
When abuse arises in a relationship there is an abuser and a victim. Many people who love the victim will try to make them see the truth. However, they won’t open their eyes.
Due to the neglect and abuse suffered in their childhood, broken souls have internalized certain aggressive behaviors. An insult, a slap, a bad word, or an attitude that humiliates are examples of such behaviors.
Broken souls are not experiencing anything new, although the situation different and they may have other types of strategies to tackle the situation.
When they begin to realize that nothing is right, then they become scared.
They begin to rebel and to receive more physical abuse that they try to cover up with makeup or fake stories, such as saying they fell over.
They’re aware that what they once considered “normal” has gone out of hand. Now they don’t want to continue living like this, but they don’t know how to get out of the situation.
They feel confused, fearful, and helpless. Without being aware, they’ve fed the beast for a long period of time. Now they don’t know how to escape it.
Two sides of the same coin
Although we find it hard to believe, both the abuser and the victim are two sides of the same coin.
Both suffered in their childhood, although their way of manifesting this suffering is very different.
- The attempt to have power over the other: the abuser exercises the power that was taken from them in their childhood. They don’t want to be hurt and don’t want to feel weak. Therefore, they harm the one who they love the most, who is, however, one of the most vulnerable people they know.
- The need to please: the victim, instead, seeks to please the other person by accepting them and giving them affectionate words. They feel that they must do everything well and not fail.
If the child doesn’t do this, then they may get a telling-off for it.
The big problem is that every victim becomes a broken soul. They find someone to break, use, hurt in the meanest ways, threaten, and sometimes even kill.
The victim has no resources to defend themselves since they’ve never learned how to do this. What they have learned very well is to hide their feelings and to suffer on the inside.
Fortunately, this is a cycle that you can get out of with the patience and firmness.
Mending broken souls
We won’t deny that many broken souls can never be mended. Everything that happens to us when we’re young affects us importantly in later periods of our life.
However, if you’ve had the right people in your life and have managed to draw strength from where you didn’t know you had any, to question everything you’ve been taught, including the fear that you feel, then you have hope.
You come out of that abusive relationship, which has been destructive and painful that it has deep dug a hole in your heart and soul.
You’ve gotten out of this situation and now is the time to start a new path. Surrounding yourself with people who love you will be an important incentive. You should also seek professional help that guides you in a concrete and correct way.
Step by step, calmly and slowly, broken souls pick up those little bits that others have broken in them, which they can always piece back together.
It’s clear that there’ll be cracks and deep marks in those who have experienced abuse in their life. Because it’s difficult to forget these things. Moreover, everything we’ve experienced has made us who we are today.
However, the positive thing is that this is our chance to be better, to take something from this experience and to move on even with all those scars that we have, which are the result of healed wounds.
People with broken souls can move forward. Don’t make the same mistakes. Change the perception of what you once believed was right and wrong.
There is a before and a during in every abusive relationship. Don’t forget that there’s also an after and this is an opportunity to change everything.