Anal Orgasm: Useful Tips for You and Your Partner
Sex and pleasure are topics increasingly open to exploration and experimentation. Nowadays, many people and couples are encouraged to try anal sex and let themselves be carried away by pleasure. In this article, you will discover how to achieve an anal orgasm and all the tips you need to enjoy it to the fullest.
Who can have an anal orgasm? How does it feel? Should I take care beforehand? Will it hurt? There are many questions. And it’s not a bad thing to be curious.
Anal orgasm: Is it possible?
If you are wondering if it’s possible to climax through anal stimulation, the answer is yes. The anus is full of nerve endings and its correct manipulation can be very exciting for some people.
Everyone can reach an anal orgasm. So, if you’re eager to experience new pleasures, don’t be afraid and inform yourself as much as possible. Remember that the golden rule when it comes to anal sex is to want to do it and relax. A good lubricant, toy, or partner will take care of the rest.
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Differences between the P-spot and the A-spot
It is important to clarify that men and women experience anal orgasms in different ways. In men, prostatic stimulation is key, while in women, the A-spot is the area responsible.
What is the P-spot?
Cisgender men and people assigned to the male sex are born with a prostate. This walnut-sized organ is responsible for much of the semen released during ejaculation. When excited, the prostate swells, and pressing it correctly generates great pleasure and more intense orgasms.
Since the prostate is located 5 centimeters from the anus, we can stimulate it with our fingers through the perineum or P-spot, which is the area between the testicles and the anus. You can touch, lick or penetrate gently and find the method that most excites you to reach anal orgasm.
What is the A-spot?
Women do not have a prostate, but they do have an erogenous zone known as the A-spot, which helps them to experience anal orgasm. Many of them describe this type of climax as waves of pleasure that are born from deep inside and spread throughout the body.
During anal sex, this point, which is located about 12 to 15 centimeters inside the vagina, is indirectly stimulated. Being an area full of nerve endings, it increases arousal, which allows it to become very lubricated and you can reach orgasm faster.
Precautions and tips to reach anal orgasm
Anal stimulation can be a sexual practice that you perform alone, through masturbation, or it can be a part of you that you share with other people. Whatever the case, there are differences in preparation. Here are some helpful tips.
If you’re the person who will have an anal orgasm
- Remember that being aroused and wanting to stimulate the area is mandatory. If you don’t feel confident, it’s best to stop and try another day.
- Being relaxed is key to avoiding unnecessary pain. If we are tense during the sexual encounter, the anus will not dilate.
- Protection is paramount. Using a condom helps avoid the risk of sexually transmitted diseases and infections.
- Foreplay helps to gradually increase arousal. Before attempting penetration, let oral sex and hands be the protagonists.
- Some sex toys, such as plugs, can help prepare you so that stimulation or penetration isn’t painful.
- Lubricant is never enough. The anus doesn’t lubricate itself, unlike the vagina, so don’t skimp out on lubrication.
- You can do an enema to make yourself more comfortable. Having accidents is a normal part of anal sex, but if you want to avoid them you can get a cleanse.
- Finally, let things flow and go at your own pace. Don’t do it for your partner, but to experience new ways of finding pleasure.
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If you are the one who’s going to penetrate
- Anal sex is not a race against the clock, but a type of climax that builds. Lots of foreplay is key before penetration begins.
- Wash and disinfect your hands before sex. Also, keep your nails short and filed to avoid hurting the area.
- Use a condom. You can use it on sex toys, fingers, and penis.
- Never switch from anal to vaginal sex with the same condom. Every time you change orifices, change condoms.
- Don’t be afraid to explore other body parts. Caresses and kisses on the nipples, nape of the neck or chest are a nice touch that will help dilate other places.
- Create an atmosphere of trust with your partner that allows him/her to feel comfortable and know that you both want to reach anal orgasm.
How to stimulate the anal area
The anus and the entire area around it, both internally and externally, is full of nerve endings that can be stimulated in various ways. Everyone’s sexuality is different, so preferences are diverse.
Some people opt for fingers, others for toys, and some stick to oral sex. Just listen to your partner and try to make sure you both enjoy it to the fullest.
Oral sex is a great ally
Before trying to penetrate your partner, let your tongue play with his buttocks and the entire perianal area. This will make her more and more aroused and will help the dilation necessary for painless penetration. Start with gentle movements around the anus.
Play with your fingers
As you use your tongue to dilate little by little, you can use your fingers to facilitate the work once the area is lubricated. Start with circular movements and a little pressure. Try not to be aggressive with the movements at first.
If your partner has a prostate, lubricate your ring finger well and gradually insert it into the anus. Don’t skimp on lube and be careful with the pressure.
Once inside, flex your finger a little in search of the prostate. It will be easy to find if your partner is aroused. Let it guide you and press gently.
With a constant circular motion, you can stimulate both the P-spot and the A-spot perfectly. Communication as a couple is key. If necessary, increase the speed and generate vibration with your fingers.
Penetration and sex toys
After you are both sufficiently aroused and your partner is dilated, it is time to begin penetration. Anal sex can be painful if you act aggressively, making it a more traumatic than pleasurable experience. Consent and gentleness are key.
Whether you are using your penis or a sex toy such as a dildo or harness, always have lubricant on hand to reapply as needed. Slowly start inserting it, maintaining light pressure until the anus gets used to it.
Start playing with depth and always be attentive to your partner’s desires. Some people like fast and deep penetrations, while others prefer slower thrusts to avoid pain. Take it easy and enjoy every second and sensation experienced.
If you are using sex toys, you can control the speed of their vibrations for both of you to enjoy. Increase the power when they are about to reach orgasm to generate more intense pleasure.
The use of sex toys should be done with the consent of the couple and while taking care of their hygiene.
Stimulate other erogenous zones
Having anal sex doesn’t mean that there are no other areas in the body that you can’t stimulate to enhance pleasure. Find the perfect combination for both you and your partner to enjoy the experience to the fullest.
You can stimulate the clitoris or the penis while you are being penetrated to help you reach an anal orgasm. Just ask for it or help yourself with a toy.
Everyone has their own spots that make them get aroused quickly. For some, it’s the nape of the neck or the ears, while for others, it’s the nipples or legs.
Perfect positions for anal sex
Although it is true that you can do whatever position you want when having sex, there are some that facilitate penetration and reduce natural discomfort. If you’re with your partner, being on your side with your leg up helps facilitate penetration, as well as providing a perfect angle to stimulate the clitoris or penis.
Another comfortable position to try is doggy style. One of the advantages is that you can both control the speed and depth of penetration and it gives you free rein to use your hands on other erogenous zones.
The human body is an infinite pleasure machine, so don’t be afraid to experiment anally if that’s what you want. Just soak up as much information as possible and do it when you feel safe.
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