What is the Law of Mirrors?

The law of the mirror is a theory that encourages you to understand the people around you through your own behaviors. What does it consist of?
What is the Law of Mirrors?

Last update: 17 February, 2021

Maybe you’ve heard of the law of mirrors, or maybe you’re unfamiliar with it. Today, we’ll tell you everything you need to know about this law and how to take advantage of it. Ready?

Read on to discover how understanding this law can help you feel better in yourself and with those around you. This is the most constructive way to benefit from learning about life.

What do you see in others and what does that say about you?

As Yoshinori Noguchi writes in The Mirror Rule, the law of mirrors affirms what you see in other people is a real reflection of what you have inside yourself. In other words, if you always tend to see certain characteristics in people, then what you’re observing is a reflection of what’s inside you. This acts as a way of teaching us.

This law’s purpose is to enable us to solve problems with groups of people in our social circle, whether they’re serious or simple problems. These people can be acquaintances, roommates, relatives or friends, among others. However, it must be done from within.

It should be noted that this exercise should be done consciously and step by step, day by day. Let’s take a closer look so you can start practicing it.

A Deeper Look at the Law of Mirrors

Law of mirrors; a woman holds a mirror outside.

The main principle of the law of mirrors states that the heart is the origin of all things. This is where the reasons why we react in a certain way to the opinions or actions of others towards us lie.

A fairly strong argument for this is presented with a simple example:

  • Look at how those around you react to the comments or actions they receive.
  • Notice how each person experiences different feelings.
  • This suggests that reactions are relative to what lies in the heart of each person.

You can understand how this works and also begin to change your negative reactions by using this law. It’s all about learning to react to situations more calmly and to free ourselves of harmful thoughts.

Analyze Others’ Behaviors

Bearing in mind what the famous law of the mirror is all about, it’s time to put it into practice little by little. The people we meet in our environment make up an essential part of our lives and of who we are as human beings.

However, some of them may often annoy us with an infinity of things, which is normal. The way they act, their reactions, their lies, and the people that control our lives all feel unwanted, annoying and even tortuous. However, it’s always important to analyze the way other people act without reacting in any way.

Analyze Your Own Behavior

The positive and negative things in life are not only found in other people. As several researchers at Washington University in St. Louis point out, we all have a number of characteristics that can please or annoy those around us.

In order to analyze yourself, you must be brutally honest, self-aware and sincere. Self-awareness is one of the most recommended practices, as long as you use it well.

As humans, mistakes are no stranger to our behavioral patterns. However, these mistakes shouldn’t be an excuse to justify everything. Therefore we must pay attention to how we treat those around us and find the mistakes in our own behavior, too.

Put the Law of Mirrors into Practice

Law of mirrors: a woman looking into the distance.

Now it’s time to focus on how to put the recommendations of the law into practice as soon as possible. Based on the information in the section above, we already know how to analyze others and ourselves. Now, we’re going to take advantage of the law of mirrors.

Here’s what you need to do:

  1.  Choose a single person. This should be someone you don’t like so that the exercise will be much more useful.
  2. After you have the subject in mind (i.e. someone you don’t feel any empathy towards and believe that he/she has done you a lot of harm), make a list of all the positive things that you should thank them for.
  3. To do this, you should set aside some time. Patience and zero anxiety are the ingredients to complete the task successfully.
  4. When you finish making the list, read it aloud as if you were saying everything to that person.

Contact the Subject

The law of mirrors goes further and suggests that we should repair the relationships with those around us. This is how our heart will let go of destructive thoughts and how we’ll become more empathetic.

People see themselves differently from how they see others. They’re immersed in their own sensations, emotions and cognitions at the same time, and this dominates their experience of others. This leads to differences and conflicts.

Emily Pronin (2008)

Once we meet that person, we should mention the list of positive things we wrote down and ask for forgiveness, if necessary. Your life will start to change from that moment.

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