What is the Law of Mirrors?

03 November, 2018
Have you ever heard of the law of mirrors? learn about this fascinating principle and how to apply it to your life.

Have you every heard of the law of mirrors?

Today, we’ll tell you everything you need to know about this law and how to take advantage of it.

The law of the mirror affirms what you see in other people is a real reflection of what you have inside yourself. In other words, if you always tend to see certain characteristics in people, then what you’re observing is a reflection of what’s inside you.

This acts as a way of teaching us.

This law’s purpose is to enable us to solve problems with groups of people in our social circle, whether they’re serious or simple problems. These people can be acquaintances, roommates, relatives or friends, among others.

However, it must be done from within.

A Deeper Look at the Law of Mirrors

law of mirrors

The main principle of the law of mirrors states that the heart is the origin of all things. This is where the reasons why we react in a certain way to the opinions or actions of others towards us lie.

A fairly strong argument for this is presented with a simple example:

  • Look at how those around you react to the comments or actions they receive.
  • Notice how each person experiences different feelings.

This suggests that reactions are relative to what lies in the heart of each person.

You can understand how this works and also begin to change your negative reactions by using this law. It’s all about learning to react to situations more calmly and to free ourselves of harmful thoughts.

Don’t miss this article: 

The Surprisingly Harmful Effects of Complaining

Analyze Others’ Behaviors

The people we meet in our environment make up an essential part of our lives and of who we are as human beings.

However, some of them may often annoy us with an infinity of things, which is normal. The way they act, their reactions, their lies, and the people that control our lives all feel unwanted, annoying and even tortuous.

However, it’s always important to analyze the way other people act without reacting in any way.

See also:

6 Mistakes that Destroy Family Relationships

Analyze Your Own Behavior

law of mirrors

The positive and negative things in life are not only found in other people. We all also have a number of characteristics that can please or annoy those around us.

In order to analyze yourself, you must be brutally honest, self-aware and sincere. Self-awareness is one of the most recommended practices, as long as you use it well.

As humans, mistakes are no stranger to our behavioral patterns. However, these mistakes shouldn’t be an excuse to justify everything.

Therefore we must pay attention to how we treat those around us and find the mistakes in our own behavior, too.

Put the Law of Mirrors into Practice

We’ve talked enough about the theory behind this law. Now it’s time to focus on how to put it into practice as soon as possible.

Based on the information in the section above,we already know how to analyze others and ourselves. Now, we’re going to take advantage of the law of mirrors.

Here’s what you need to do:

  1.  Choose a single person. This should be someone you don’t like so that the exercise will be much more useful.
  2. After you have the subject in mind (i.e. someone you don’t feel any empathy towards and believe that he/she has done you a lot of harm), make a list of all the positive things that you should thank them for.
  3. To do this, you should set aside some time. Patience and zero anxiety are the ingredients to complete the task successfully.
  4. When you finish making the list, read it aloud as if you were saying everything to that person.

Contact the Subject

law of mirrors

The law of mirrors goes further and suggests that we should repair the relationships with those around us. This is how our heart will let go of  destructive thoughts and how we’ll become more empathetic.

Once we meet that person, we should mention the list of positive things we wrote down and ask for forgiveness, if necessary.

It’s a wonderful way to free yourself and learn to truly forgive.

  • Noguchi, Y. (2009). La ley del espejo. Editorial Comanegra.
  • Pronin, E. (2008). How we see ourselves and how we see others. Science. https://doi.org/10.1126/science.1154199
  • Vazire, S., & Carlson, E. N. (2010). Self-Knowledge of Personality: Do People Know Themselves? Social and Personality Psychology Compass. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1751-9004.2010.00280.x