Taking Everything Personally and Always Being Offended
There are just some people that go through life taking offense at everything. Instead of allowing themselves to live their lives in harmony and respect with others, they choose to “back themselves against a wall” almost every time.
Is it that the world is always against them? No. What happens is that in the subtle, yet complex world of emotions and personality, there are some people that make a constant habit of being offended.
Instead of seeing these people as problems that should be avoided, we need to understand what’s going on inside them.
The hypersensitivity, low self-esteem and lack of psychological resources creates thought patterns that are too rigid.
Any word, action or gesture is interpreted as an offense. This is where the essence of the problem lies. This lower self sees problems where there aren’t any and prejudices where they don’t exist.
Some personalities see storms when the sun is shining. Let’s take a look at this topic a little closer.
Offended 24 hours a day, 7 days a week
“I can’t even talk to you.” “You’re offended by everything.” “You’re impossible, you go from bad to worse.”
If you’ve ever heard any of these types of things before, they probably made you feel horrible. However, these words carry some truth.
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If the people around us have problems interacting with us, it’s because something is not right. If they’re uncomfortable, or there are frequent problems with miscommunication, it’s important to understand why.
- Instead of thinking “everyone hates me,” remember the importance of taking a moment to deeply reflect on the situation.
- We need to peel back the layers of the onion that surrounds us to know what’s going on inside.
Below, we’ll discover what is going on in someone who is constantly taking everything personally and feeling offended.
It’s your expectations, not other people, that offend you
Maybe you have high expectations that don’t conform to reality. In a way, we all have an idea of how we think others should act, how they should treat us and how they should react to things.
In the first place, we should point out that the following approaches don’t quite cover every situation. Let’s see why.
- The only thing you need to know is how you want others to treat you. You deserve respect and must demand it. Everyone has this need.
- What other people do is not your responsibility. Everyone is free to choose what they want and to act as they please, as long as there is some mutual respect.
- If we obsess over how our partner is acting, what our friends are doing, it can only end badly for us.
To achieve tranquility and more inner balance, keep this in mind: don’t expect anything from anyone, only set expectations for yourself.
The world isn’t against you: it is you who needs to harmonize with the world.
Those that live their lives constantly offended can be compared to a tree trunk. To understand, imagine the following:
- Imagine that you are a tree next to an ocean. The water comes and goes. Sometimes the wind is gentle, and sometimes it’s intense. Some days the ocean caresses you, and some days it will hammer you with a storm.
- If you’re a really firm and strong tree, the oceans, the waves, and the elements will topple you over. In this scenario, the strength and rigidity of the tree symbolizes our obstinacy that can be so destructive for us.
- However, if you’re like the supple bamboo branch, you’ll sway with the wind and even the fiercest storm will never be able to uproot you. It is because you adapt, and do not stand like a wall, that you can take the blow.
Going through life constantly offended damages ourselves the most.
- Those easily offended create distrust.
- If you live your life always offended, your loved ones will stop feeling good around you and will start avoiding you.
- If you only take offense when they offer kind words, you’ll create distance.
Love yourself a little more and stop the noise of obsessive thoughts
The world doesn’t hate you. No one is against you. Don’t look for things to be offended over when there aren’t any nor look for bad intentions when there are none.
- Those who do not love themselves become demanding with others. They wait, above all, for others to offer them what they do not offer others: love, respect and appreciation.
- If we don’t start to work on ourselves on the inside, our darkest depths will keep surfacing until our whole reality becomes a living hell.
It’s just not worth it. So say no to unnecessary suffering and don’t add fuel to a fire. Start healing your wounds and give yourself the love that you need.
Only when someone loves themselves enough will the world start to improve for them.