Single and Happy: Is It Possible?

· August 16, 2015
Personal maturity and balance are essential for a relationship to grow between two people.  In order to maintain a relationship and be happy, you first have to love yourself.

Of course it’s possible to be single and happy, even though some people equate happiness to being in a relationship. We assure you that being single offers many benefits, let’s explore.

The Benefits of Being Single

You probably know someone who is single and desperate to find a partner.  They think that they’re the freaks of society unless they have a companion, that they’re empty and won’t feel complete without someone there to hold their hand everyday.  But the fact is it’s dangerous to associate happiness solely with having someone.  Certain people don’t know how to be comfortable with just themselves, have their own balance, or experience the growth that only comes from those times in our lives when we’re single, with no one by our sides.  Obviously, having our “other half” at our side will make us happy and give us a sense of balance, but to be clear: to have a partner and be happy, it’s vital to first learn to love yourself.  It takes balance and personal maturity for a relationship to form between two people where they both will find emotional integrity and respect for themselves and each other.  But let’s see how we can take advantage of being single.

1.  Listen to yourself, get to know yourself better.


Being single allows you to spend time with yourself and to start better listening to your own needs more often.  Spend this time reflecting and getting to better know your own needs, what you like and dislike, and what you want most.  Sometimes in a relationship, many people spend more time caring for the other persons’ needs than their own.  We relegate ourselves to the back burner without realizing that unless something changes, the situation can become dangerous.  Being single allows time for ourselves.  Be selfish and think about yourself.  Take care of yourself, listen to your needs, find your own balance in being single.  Learn to listen to and love yourself!

2.  Time to grow as a person, time for yourself.

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There are relationships that end traumatically and this is when our optimism and self-esteem are affected.  It’s a good time to get to know yourself, to grow, to heal your wounds and reorient your life.  Think about the type of person that you’d like to be with and define your limits and what’s acceptable in an emotional relationship.  Think about these things and enjoy yourself.  Learn to love yourself and believe that you’re the most amazing person in the world and that being single brings you happiness.

3.  Time for your friends and hobbies


Few things are as satisfying as finding time for the things you love.  Painting, learning a language, taking a course?  Now’s the time to do the things you love and enjoy the freedom.  Sometimes, when we’re in a relationship we stop doing the things we love because we’re spending so much time with our companion.  Now you can do what you like without having to answer to anyone.  You could slip away on a trip with a few friends or go solo.  Being single isn’t a bad thing, you’re always the most important person in the world.  Enjoy yourself, your friends, family, pets…and being single.

4.  Time for feeling whole


Some people are under the impression that above and before anything else, you should find your other half.  If we obsess over this idea, we’ll begin to see ourselves as incomplete.  From this moment on, you should feel like you’re a whole, healthy person.  While you’re enjoying yourself, the right person will come along, someone who deserves you, will love you for who you are, and with whom you’ll be happy.  It doesn’t necessarily have to be your other half.  Any two people with the right combination of character, passions, virtues and flaws can form a stable and happy couple.  Until then, remember that you’re always whole.  Full of self-esteem, personality, feelings and beauty.  Smile when you’re in front of the mirror and remember that your happiness is always important, whether single or in a relationship.  Learn to love yourself, nurture your self-esteem, and never for a second think that being in a relationship is mandatory to be happy.  Sometimes we fall into toxic and damaging relationships that make us feel that being single is the better choice.  But what’s really best is to learn how to enjoy your own individuality and independence, without shutting the doors completely.  Love is an adventure that’s always worthwhile, but never neglect your own heart.