Single and Happy: Is It Possible?

December 13, 2018
Personal maturity and balance are essential for a relationship to grow between two people. In order to maintain a relationship and be happy, you first have to love yourself.

Of course, it’s possible to be single and happy, even though some people equate happiness to being in a relationship. We assure you that being single offers many benefits. Let’s explore.

The Benefits of Being Single

You probably know someone who is single and desperate to find a partner. They think that they’re the freaks of society unless they have a companion, that they’re empty and won’t feel complete without someone there to hold their hand every day.

But the fact is it’s dangerous to associate happiness solely with having someone. Certain people don’t know how to be comfortable with just themselves, have their own balance, or experience the growth that only comes from those times in our lives when we’re single.

Obviously, having our “other half” at our side will make us happy and give us a sense of balance, but to be clear: to have a partner and be happy, it’s vital to first learn to love yourself.

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 It takes balance and personal maturity for a relationship to form between two people. By demonstrating this, they both will find emotional integrity and respect for themselves and each other. But let’s see some of the benefits of being single and happy. You can:

1.  Get to know yourself better

woman smiling because she is single and happy

Being single allows you to spend time with yourself and to start better listening to your own needs more often. You should spend this time reflecting and getting to better know your own needs, what you like and dislike, and what you want most.

Sometimes in a relationship, many people spend more time caring for the other persons’ needs than their own. We put our needs on the back burner without realizing it unless something changes. This type of situation can become dangerous.

Being single allows time for ourselves. Be selfish and think about yourself. Take care of yourself, listen to your needs, find your own balance in being single and happy. Learn to listen to and love yourself!

2.  Have time to grow as a person

a woman writing, making time for herself to grow personally

There are relationships that end traumatically and this is when our optimism and self-esteem are affected. So, it’s a good time to get to know yourself, to grow, to heal your wounds and reorient your life.

Think about the type of person that you’d like to be with and define your limits and what’s acceptable in an emotional relationship. Think about these things and enjoy yourself. Learn to love yourself and believe that you’re the most amazing person in the world and that being single brings you happiness.

You not only should think about what you want in another person, but also what you want for yourself. Think about what makes you happy, what can make you grow personally

3.  Make time for your friends and hobbies

friendship

Few things are as satisfying as finding time for the things you love. Painting, learning a language, taking a course? Now’s the time to do the things you love and enjoy the freedom.

Sometimes, when we’re in a relationship we stop doing the things we love because we’re spending so much time with our companion. However, now you can do what you like without having to answer to anyone.

You could slip away on a trip with a few friends or go solo. Being single isn’t a bad thing because you’re always the most important person whne you’re alone. You will find it’s possible being single and happy.

4. Feel whole

woman wearing white sunglasses, feeling whole

Some people are under the impression that above and before anything else, you should find your other half. If we obsess over this idea, we’ll begin to see ourselves as incomplete.

From this moment on, you should feel like you’re a whole, healthy person. While you’re enjoying yourself, the right person will come along, someone who deserves you, will love you for who you are, and with whom you’ll be happy. It doesn’t necessarily have to be your other half.

Any two people with the right combination of character, passions, virtues, and flaws can form a stable and happy relationship. Until then, remember that you’re always whole, full of self-esteem, personality, feelings, and beauty.

See also: “I want to be single, but with you.”- The Viral Letter

 Smile when you’re in front of the mirror and remember that your happiness is always important, whether single or in a relationship. Learn to love yourself, nurture your self-esteem, and never for a second think that being in a relationship is mandatory to be happy.

Sometimes we fall into toxic and damaging relationships that make us feel that being single is the better choice. But what’s really best is to learn how to enjoy your own individuality and independence, without shutting the doors completely.

Love is an adventure that’s always worthwhile but never neglect your own heart. Allow yourself to be single and happy.

Kahneman, D. (1999). Objective happiness. In Well-being: The foundations of hedonic psychology. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-540-68540-1_1