Being Silent is About More than Just Not Speaking

· June 10, 2017
Staying silent helps give you a reason to speak, to analyze your situations and yourself, to be aware of how you are going to react. Silence enriches you. Will you allow it to enter your life?

Staying silent doesn’t just mean being quiet. This seemingly passive action goes much farther.

The absence of words doesn’t mean that they disappear. Sometimes, you might think that you stop communicating when you’re silent. However, in reality you are transmitting much more than you realize.

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You’re probably not aware of the amount of time you spend talking about things that don’t make much sense, however.

This typically has one goal: to escape from various fears and insecurities.

Staying silent makes you feel alone

Are you afraid of loneliness? Being silent is difficult because it makes you feel alone. You might be used to being surrounded by noise or other people.

You have been taught to fear not having a family that supports you, people who love you, or friends who want to be with you.

That’s why just thinking about the simple fact of disappearing into silence can lead to a spiral of terror.

Talking is how you distract yourself from this. You spend time talking about the things you’ve done, what you’re planning to do, or what you’d like to do. Then, You communicate desires and frustrations.

You manifest everything through your words, but you never think about just being silent.

Remaining silent invites you to reflect and look inward. As attractive as this idea is, however, it is also frightening.

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Not only will you find solutions to your problems, like learning to be alone with yourself. You’ll also come face to face with the errors and mistakes you have made.

Showing only your best self

The fear of solitude that makes you speak when you don’t need to makes you show only your best self when you’re with other people.

To do this, you communicate with words, because silence can lead others to think you have some sort of problem.

You put on a mask for others. Sometimes, you even start to believe your own lies.

When you don’t give yourself a single second to dive into your mind, it’s a clear sign that there’s something about yourself you don’t like.

Do you feel happy? Who are you, really? These questions should bring a smile to your face and a quick and concise answer.

However, this is probably not the case.

When was the last time you truly enjoyed the moment you were living in?

Words can help you hide everything that you must face, but it can give rise to panic.

Enjoy your silence

You may have surprised yourself on multiple occasions by talking to yourself. Perhaps this was  when you were at home and no one else was around.

This is an attitude that you can’t control. Plus, it’s a way of avoiding that terrible silence you hate so much.

Imagine, however, that you’re in a dark, empty room and you can’t get out until you manage to be truly silent.

At first it will be difficult. You’ll start talking to yourself, you’ll cry, you’ll scream…But in the end, you will grow weary.

You’ll learn to be quiet when you’ve run out of words and have no choice but to enjoy your silence. This is when you’ll discover the following:

  • You will be aware of the fear you have of being alone, but you’ll also realize that you’re not actually alone. You have yourself!
  • You’ll stop blaming others for what happens to you and start taking responsibility for your past mistakes.
  • You’ll get to know both your good and bad parts, and you’ll understand them.
  • You’ll see how useless it is to try to make everyone like you and be someone you are not. You’ll realize that authenticity is the best of everything.
Staying silent helps give you a reason to speak, to analyze your situations and yourself, to be aware of how you are going to react.

Many people do things without thinking because they’re not used to the absence of words.

Silence enriches you. Will you allow it to enter your life?