Feeling Discouraged is Normal, But Being Pessimistic Isn’t

January 23, 2019
It's normal to feel discouraged and down at times, but being pessimistic isn't the right reaction. Read more in this article!

Who hasn’t ever felt discouraged before? This is completely normal, and one could even say that people are almost always subject to discouragement. However, feeling discouraged is different than being pessimistic.

Pessimism affects people in very significant ways, and it can make one’s life truly complicated. The worst part is that people aren’t always aware of it until it’s too late. Pessimism is also one of those things that once it’s inside you, is difficult to get rid of.

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From normal to toxic

The truth is there’s only one step between being discouraged to being pessimistic. What causes pessimism? Pessimism always arises when we prolong our sense of discouragement.

Being pessimistic isn't a good thing.

It’s not bad to feel discouraged. Everyone gets discouraged every once in a while, and it can help you to muster up the strength to face whatever lies ahead so that you’re much more prepared.

The problem is that sometimes it’s hard to get yourself out of that state of discouragement. This could be because your life circumstances aren’t making it easy, or because you simply can’t see the light of hope amidst so much darkness.

The only fact is that you will eventually end up in the clenches of pessimism. You might think that this is not such a bad thing, but in fact, it does change a lot of things inside you. Would you like to know how?

Being pessimistic changes your outlook

Pessimism changes your outlook on life and everything that surrounds you. Suddenly, everything seems dark. You might also feel like you’re becoming a very pessimistic person. This vicious circle prevents you from finding your way out.

Whenever you find yourself deep in pessimism, you can no longer sense opportunity nor feel experiences. The truth is that, during those moments, you miss a lot of opportunities that pass your way. This is all because of one thing: fear.

It changes the way you listen

Whenever you’re in this mindset, everything you hear will be magnified by your ears. All you need to hear is one negative comment, or for someone to answer you rudely, and you’ll magnify this into a heavy sense of discomfort.

A person feeling victimized.

Phrases will pop up in your head at that moment, like “You’re worthless”, “It was going to happen sooner or later”, “No one helps you”, or “The world is against you”. These words will make you feel even more discouraged and will haunt you in the pessimism that you’ve surrounded yourself with.

It changes the way you speak

Just as you start to hear negative things, you’ll also change the way you see things and you’ll start to talk very differently than you used to.

At times like this, you’ll say sad things, words that are full of pain that reflect the absolute sense of pessimism you’re surrounded by.

So what’s the solution? Force positive words to come out because not everything is bad. You just have your eyes closed, so open them!

It affects your personal relationships

Eventually, all this pessimism will affect your personal relationships. You might not go out as much, or the pessimism you’re surrounded by will start to spread to your friends.

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This causes you to isolate yourself. The best advice is to try to talk about your problem with your friends, try to have a good time, and most of all, not shut yourself off. These will be your best allies against pessimism.

It puts your future at risk

Becoming discouraged, being pessimistic, and feeling hopeless will eventually paralyze you. You’ll no longer be able to face life, you’ll let opportunities pass by, and you’ll waste everything that you could have given more of yourself to.

You won’t want to do anything, nothing will excite you. All your success will be out of your hands and you’ll feel even worse because of it. So try to get out of it, fight for it!

But most importantly, ask the people closest to you for help. They’ll help you see the world in a much more positive light.

A discouraged woman.

As we said earlier, everyone’s gone through this before, but what’s important is that you get out of it. If you stay this way for a long time, you’ll become a toxic person. You’ll lose opportunities and friends, and you’ll become gray and apathetic inside.

Learn to communicate your problem with other people and to expose what’s inside you. The way you see things isn’t the only way to see things. Let other people open your eyes. Fight against the darkness that consumes you.

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