Heal Emotional Wounds: How to do it?

November 2, 2018
Suffering from emotional wounds is part of learning who you are. Sometimes it’s very hard, but you have to learn to heal them in order to look toward your future with optimism.

How many times have you been hurt? Do you feel it’s impossible to heal emotional wounds? Emotional injury is something you have to learn to recover from, but it’s incredibly difficult because the pain lingers, you suffer too much, and sometimes it stays with you forever.

Some emotional wounds strike more deeply than others. Some disappear without a trace, but others leave an unmistakable scar that never fully heals. Certain wounds never close…or at least that’s what you’ve believed until now.

Maybe you think your life would be so much better if you never suffered, if no one had ever harmed you. But what you don’t realize is that this is part of how you learn in life. It’s what transforms you, forcing you to grow as a person. All of your experiences, both positive and negative, will leave their mark on you.

Today we want to talk about how to heal emotional wounds in the best way possible so that you learn from them, transforming them into experiences that teach you about yourself and your life.

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Take care of your wounds so they can heal properly

Emotional wounds might feel worse than their physical counterparts, but they must be treated equally. Indeed, the steps taken to heal emotional wounds are similar to when you have a cut or a bruise on your body.

Refusing to look at it this way could cause you to ignore your pain, turning away from your wound until it becomes infected, never healing, causing you even more agony or regret. That’s why we want to focus on the steps everyone has to take in order to heal emotional wounds:

1. Where is your wound?

First of all, you need to know where you’re hurting, identify the source of your pain. Instead of looking the other way, explore deeply within yourself and seek help if you need it.

It’s possible that you won’t be able to identify the wound by yourself and you’ll need outside help. Don’t be afraid of feeling vulnerable, and never be ashamed! Once you’ve identified the wound and understand where it came from, you can continue…

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2. Find out how serious it is

Anytime you have a wound it’s important to know how serious it is, if at all. Sometimes it could be causing more pain than you even realize at first, and other times it might be largely in your mind.

Now that you know where it is you can study it to find out what the correct course of treatment will be. But don’t ignore it – you have to tackle it head-on.

3. Time to heal

This is the most painful instant. Recall that stinging sensation you feel when you put rubbing alcohol or hydrogen peroxide on a deep cut? The same concept applies to heal emotional wounds, too.

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You have to keep pushing forward no matter what happens because it will eventually lead you to a turning point, where you’ll be put to a test. Sometimes what you need to do is open your eyes and face reality.

Other times you’ll be forced to find a solution to an unpleasant situation. Still, others may require you to cut your losses and walk away, others cause you to mourn

4. Allow it to heal

Depending on the severity of your injury it could take a long time to heal. You know of course that it’s not going to happen overnight, so give yourself time.

The pain is normal; it’s going to be hard. But you must remember that life goes on and there’s a lot of good left in it. Don’t let pain and negativity cloud your sight. You can heal emotional wounds as you look toward the future and remember how to smile.

“For all the wounds of the soul, no matter how deep they may seem, time, the great solace, will heal them”

– Cristoph Martin Wieland-

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Don’t be ashamed of your wounds because everyone has been hurt at some point in their lives. The problems arise when you ignore them, thinking that distraction and time are all it takes to heal yourself.

It’s true that these can help, but only if you’ve identified and observed what caused your wound, and what will help it heal. Furthermore, it’s not a matter of sealing it off and walking away – this healing process must allow each wound to slowly reach the point that it no longer hurts you.

Healing from emotional wounds is a learning opportunity that is perhaps more important than anything else, as it teaches you that you can overcome the fear and pain they have caused.

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  • Benner, D. G. (2016). Healing emotional wounds. Wipf and Stock Publishers.