When we hear the word “subconscious,” many of us immediately think of psychoanalysis. That idea of us being characterized by everything that lies below the surface of our consciousness comes up, too.
Actually, this very part of our mind is what acts like a motor for many of the things we do. It guides our day-to-day reactions and way of interacting with the people around us.
When we’re introduced to a new person, for example, it doesn’t take us long to quickly evaluate whether we like them or not. When we go down the stairs and miss a step, we usually react in a split second to regain our balance.
There are many things that we do automatically and many answers we give without analyzing and rationalizing them. Overall, there are many behaviors we have that come from this subconscious structure.
But what if we told you there is a way to get into this black box in our mind in order to get to know it better and even control it?
Doing it would be an incredible way to act with more assurance and less fear so we can remake ourselves into a freer, fuller, happier person.
Today, that’s what we’ll talk about.
Your subconscious is your mind’s autopilot
Nothing you find in your subconscious is arbitrary or accidental. Your subconscious hosts the essence of everything you’ve gone through, seen, and felt.
It’s a kind of “junk drawer” where the compass of your being and everything that’s happened to you is kept.
Everything you’ve lived through leaves an emotional mark according to how you have processed it. This makes it so that you construct certain associations, correct or not, based on things you’ve experienced:
“People who look me in the eye are trustworthy because my mother looked at me like that.” “Men who avoid looking at you when they speak to you are dangerous because my first boyfriend did that, and he really hurt me.”
Therefore, everything you’ve gone through leaves a mark on your subconscious. Thus, you probably interpret your reality according to this information you’ve stored.
Your subconscious is what allows you to respond quickly when there isn’t time to think about things.
There are several things it might respond to, for example. “Should I accept the job offer?” “Is it a good idea to give my phone number to my new friend?” “Which road should I take, the left or right?”
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What can “programming” my subconscious do for me?
There are many reasons why you may want to program your subconscious:
- To get to know yourself better.
- To correct bad habits (smoking, stress, anxiety, depress, self confidence)
- To create a reality that fits your desires better.
Programming your subconscious can help you turn into the person that you truly want to be.
Before you program your subconscious, you should know what’s involved
It’s a simple idea: nobody can change the interior decoration of their home if they don’t know what’s in the house to begin with.
The most common situation is that there are dark rooms that light hasn’t touched in a long time. These are places where your fears and limiting thoughts are hidden, the ones that are keeping you from being happy.
Thus, it’s vital to learn about the problem areas in your subconscious so you can heal them before you orient it towards health and achievement.
To get there, you’ll have to do the following. It will be extremely helpful.
Learn how to connect to your subconscious
- Pay attention to your intuitions. Hunches are actually messages your subconscious is sending to your conscious mind. Therefore they are bits of information that can give you a hint as to what lies inside and what you’re trying to tell yourself.
- Keep a dream diary. Put a notebook on your nightstand and write about every dream you have. Do it as soon as you wake up, before you forget. Later on, analyze it and ask yourself what the dream might mean.
- Practice meditation. Find a calm moment in your day to spend on this healthy exercise. Think of it as a half hour where you can connect with yourself.
- Paint mandalas. It’s a way to focus on the here and now so you can also connect with yourself.
- Keep a personal journal. Write down your thoughts, your memories, and your feelings. It’s the perfect way to create a literary architecture where your essence and a bit of your subconscious can come out.
5 Steps to programming your subconscious
It’s important to work on the previous step, self-discovery, before you move on to this phase.
It’s only when you’ve found your weaknesses when you can start on this process of interior change and of directly approaching this programming of your subconscious.
You should remember one key thing: be consistent. These exercises should be done daily, so be patient. Changes won’t happen in a week or even a month.
Take notes on these steps.
Practice visualization every day. Imagine yourself in your car. You’re in the driver’s seat, you’re at the wheel, and you know exactly where you have to go.
- You feel a nice breeze on your face and see a calming sunrise coming over the horizon that’s filling you with hope.
- That point on the horizon is where your goals are. You drive towards it confidently and fearlessly. Nobody stops you.
2. Use positive affirmations to empower yourself
Come up with phrases that work for you: “I deserve to be happy and nothing can stop me. My worst enemies are in my mind and I’ve already beat them.”
Repeat these affirmations often, especially before going to sleep.
3. Live in the “here and now”
Be connected to what is happening in the present moment.
If you focus your attention on the past or future, your subconscious will be betraying you, because it’s in the here and now where the doors of opportunity are opening.
5. Do one thing at a time
Avoid multi-tasking. The stress of doing a hundred things at the same time will rise up and become a monster for your inner peace.
Learn how to flow with each thing you’re doing in the present. That’s where you should focus all of your energy.
5. Stop wandering thoughts
All in all, you have one goal in mind: to be happy, to be yourself, to become the person you truly want to be.
Do you know who can keep you from getting there? You, with your wandering thoughts. No more should you think: “I can’t because I’ve failed in the past,”or “I don’t dare because I’ll surely end up disappointing someone.”
Keep your thoughts in line and embrace a more confident, mature, powerful subconscious driving you where you want to go: a world of absolute peace and happiness.
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