Instead of missing the people or things that we’ve lost, we need to learn to enjoy and appreciate people now, while we still have them at our side.
Throughout our lives, we lose many loved ones.
We’re not just talking about deaths, as we’ve said goodbye to many important people who’ve crossed our paths and, for whatever reason, have drifted away to not be a part of our present.
When you lose someone, you go through a period of time where you reflect to try to find a reason for what happened. The way we get through this process and the conclusions we make will help us face the future.
We invite you to reflect on that a little.
What you lose doesn’t always let you “move on lighter”
On our site, we’ve often mentioned the need to move on lighter. Leaving complicated relationships behind can leave you feeling more unhappy than balanced.
Now, there’s something as important as leaving behind what hurts, and that’s knowing how to offer the best of ourselves to the people that we love in the “here and now”, without waiting for tomorrow and without assuming certain things.
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- Society is based on the pillars of speed and the fragility of relationships. We want everything and we want it now. We don’t always tolerate frustration, being told “no”, or that certain things are different than what we expected.
- In recent years, there’s been an interesting social movement that’s referred to as “Slow” that stresses the importance of slowing down and allowing ourselves to live our relationships more fully, appreciating the most basic and simple things in life.
- Focusing on work, the need to improve, getting and accumulating things, all cause us to forget the value of this most pure love and essential part of our personal relationships.
- If we keep this lifestyle up, we’ll end up losing everything that we truly consider important. And whatever you lose is a wound that you’ll forever carry in your heart.
- Haste is the greatest enemy of full consciousness. It’s an attitude towards life that keeps you from slowing down and appreciating all that you have around you, including the important people in your life.
- Strong bonds are reinforced by sincere affection, reciprocation and recognition. If the people around you don’t feel that way, then you risk losing them. Relationships need to be nourished and cared for. It’s worth it to slow down and look at what’s in front of you.
The need to live conscious of what’s important
It may seem obvious, but not everyone is capable of setting priorities in their live and addressing what’s important and what’s not.
We all know that your work obligations are important for maintaining a family and a decent life. But sometimes, we can set the bar too high or low which allows stress and pressure to affect our health and relationships.
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- Life is knowing how to maintain balance and being able to refocus your attention, interests and motivation towards things that enrich your life, not materially, but emotionally.
- There’s no need to think, “live as if there’s no tomorrow” or “hug your children so hard, like it’s the last time you’ll ever seen them.” We can’t fall victim to these fatalistic thoughts, it’s simply about allowing ourselves to enjoy the present to the maximum extent possible.
- Any loss is experienced with suffering. Even when the separation is necessary, we go through a time of introspection where we heal many of our wounds. So, in order to prevent these situations, we need to be prepared.
- We need to realize that nothing in this life lasts forever. We’re brief passengers in a world of uncertainty.
- Now if existence is something cruel dispensing misfortune, it’s worth taking advantage of what you can control. If you love someone, care for them and show them your feelings so that they’ll always be by your side.
We not talking about just romantic relationships. All bonds need care and attention: offer your children your attention, care and respect so that they’ll be there by your side as adults.
Do the same with your friends and other family members.
If you love someone, appreciate them while you have them. Otherwise you may regret it if you lose them or they decide to leave you.