What Women Value in a Relationship

Men and women often have different values when it comes to love. In this article, we’ll explain what most women value in a relationship.
What Women Value in a Relationship
Valeria Sabater

Written and verified by psychologist Valeria Sabater.

Last update: 27 May, 2022

Did you know that women tend to be more selective when it comes to dating than men? They pay more attention to the details, looking beyond the surface and pure physical attraction… However, they also want to seduce and conquer their ideal partner. In this article, we’ll explain what most women value in a relationship.

What Women Value in a Relationship

1. Someone who makes a great teammate

Being in a relationship means you have to work together. Day by day, you build a harmonious, happy world.

It’s not enough to have the most attractive partner on earth if they can’t even make themselves happy every day. A woman needs someone who can make her feel comfortable, someone she can confide in and who understands her.

You want a partner who makes your life easier – not harder  –  without unnecessary demands, distrust, or jealousy. That’s not being part of a team. Instead, it puts distance and suffering between the couple.

No, you’re looking for a partner who shares your dreams and you can work together with.

2. Someone who listens and knows how to communicate

couple Value in a Relationship

This is important for any relationship. Both members of the couple need to have the ability to listen and understand their partner.

You’re looking for a person with whom you can talk about anything, someone who’s not afraid of confronting their emotions, understanding what hurts them or makes them happy.

A person who doesn’t communicate well, or simply can’t, is a partner that puts up walls between you rather than opening doors. Living together is impossible if there’s no openness and communication. You need to know that your partner will listen to everything you say… no matter how small it may be.

You need to be heard and understood.

3. Someone who makes you laugh and excites you


Just the simple thought of everyday acts of kindness should light you up inside. A smile in the morning, the promise of a bright future. A look that’s timed just when you need to feel comforted, a hug in the night, or laughter shared during a walk in the park.

However, that’s something that you have to work at every day. It doesn’t just appear like magic. You have to really want to make your partner truly happy.

Love and respect are built on that desire, and you have to work to keep the dream alive between the two of you so that it doesn’t slip away. Without that dream, love fades.

4. Someone who’s mature, safe, and emotionally stable


You already know that an immature or insecure person is more than likely only going to bring you unhappiness.

Often, they’re distrustful or have low self esteem all the time. This turns into a toxic relationship where jealousy and emotional manipulation are used to imprison you, and you’re punished for anything you try to do to escape the situation.

Your ideal mate is mature, confident, and emotionally stable. You need someone who understands empathy, who knows what can hurt you, and with whom you can build a relationship that’s happy, healthy, and stable over the long term.

That is what we all should value in a relationship.

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