How to Accept Your Present Situation as Your Choice

· January 22, 2019
Even if your life is currently dark and stormy, consider the possibility that it can help you. Accept your present situation to help yourself grow stronger.

Your present situation is never going to be perfect. It’s full of negative circumstances and things you want to escape from. However, there’s nothing for you to do but accept your present situation.

Is resisting hardship working for you? Is denying it or blaming it on bad luck helping you?

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We often don’t accept what happens to us when we don’t like it. That’s why we take on the role of the victim. However, we don’t realize that we can look at what’s happening to us from another perspective.

Accepting Your Present Situation

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How can you accept your present situation when it’s not something you chose?

You know that you didn’t choose all of those moments that made you doubt yourself or feel like a failure. You didn’t choose for it to happen when something got in the way of your plans.

But even though it’s hard, you need to learn to accept them as if you had chosen them voluntarily. It’s not impossible, but it’s indispensable to be aware that feeling bad for yourself doesn’t solve anything.

To some degree, you know that there’s nothing else to do but face what’s happening. It’s better to accept your present situation than to reject it.

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How Can I Accept What’s Happened to Me?

  • Negative events are life lessons: Come to terms with what’s happened and you’ll be able to see it in a positive light! The hardest situations will make you stronger and help you mature and grow.
  • Don’t give up: Giving up doesn’t have anything to do with accepting the situation. Hold on to the present, even if it burns, and take it where you want to go.
  • Don’t sit and wait: No sitting out the storm until it passes. You have to take the reins and start walking to make a positive change today.
  • Don’t let your mind get out of control: Your mind will fill with negative ideas that will keep you from finding the strength to get out of this. Don’t listen to those thoughts.
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Maybe one of your biggest hindrances is that you believe those thoughts. They tell you that you’ll never get over this, that you’re a disaster, that you deserve all the bad things that have happened to you.

Those ideas are so attractive that if you grab ahold of them, you’ll fall into the victim complex of self-pity. That situation is a dead-end road.

Things Happen, but Everything Comes to an End

When things are going well for you, you forget about what happens to you when things don’t go your way. It’s in those moments that you think that the world is ending.

Have you ever stopped to think about those happy times in your relationship? Surely not as often as the moment when the relationship fell apart and shattered into pieces.

You think that the world is closing in on you. Your negative emotions are powerful and you feed them by not accepting what really happened. However, you keep telling yourself that you don’t deserve any of what is happening to you.

Although everything seems so dramatic right now, it will pass eventually.

You stopped living in the present and are concentrating too much on your past and the future. It’s carried you along a road full of expectations, dreams, and a lack of presence in the here and now.

You didn’t choose what’s happening to you, but if you accept your present situation as if you had chosen it, you will be much better equipped to handle it.

How to See from a Different Perspective

You can always find something positive to get out of all the bad things that have happened to you. All you have to do is look at your situation from another point of view.

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Keep moving forward no matter what, take control of your life, and don’t let your negative thoughts hold you back.

Things always end because nothing lasts forever. So look at what’s going on in an optimistic light and take the good it offers.

You may not believe it, but you’ll come out of it stronger, full of new experiences, and with a new perspective from which to see the good side of things.

It’s true that bad things always have a positive side. If you allow yourself, you’ll learn more than you ever expected.

 

  • Gardner, F. L., & Moore, Z. E. (2007). The psychology of enhancing human performance: The mindfulness-acceptance-commitment (MAC) approach. Springer Publishing Company.
  • Linley, P. A., & Joseph, S. (2004). Positive change following trauma and adversity: A review. Journal of Traumatic Stress: Official Publication of The International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies17(1), 11-21.