Whatever Your Present Situation Is, Accept It As If You Had Chosen It Yourself
Even if your present situation is dark and stormy, remember that it is helping you learn and grow. Don't reject it; accept it so it can transform you.
Your present situation is never going to be perfect. It’s full of negative circumstances, things you want to escape from. But there’s nothing else you can do but face it.
Is resisting hardship working for you? Is denying it or blaming it on bad luck helping you?
We often don’t accept what happens to us when we don’t like it. That’s why we take on the role of victim. However, we don’t realize that we can look at what’s happening to us from another perspective.
Accepting what you didn’t choose
You know that you haven’t chosen all of those moments that made you doubt, feel like a failure, or that have gotten in your way.
But even though it’s hard, you need to learn to accept them as if you had chosen them voluntarily.
It’s not impossible, but it’s indispensable to be aware that feeling bad for yourself is no solution.
To some degree, you know that there’s nothing else to do but face what’s happening. It’s better to accept it than to reject it.
Want to know how to do it?
- Negative things are life lessons: Come to terms with what it is, and you’ll be able to see it in a positive light! The hardest situations will make your stronger and help you mature and grow.
- Don’t give up: Giving up doesn’t have anything to do with accepting the situation. Hold on to the present, even if it burns, and take it where you want to go.
- Don’t sit and wait: No sitting out the storm until it passes. You have to take the reins and start to walk and make a positive change even today.
- Don’t let your mind get out of control: Your mind will fill itself with negative ideas that will keep you from finding the strength to get out of this. Don’t listen to those thoughts.
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Maybe one of your biggest hindrances is that you believe those thoughts that tell you that you’ll never get over this, that you’re a disaster, or that you deserve all the bad things that happen to you.
Those ideas are so attractive that if you grab ahold of them, you’ll fall into the victim complex and self-pity. Those two situations are dead-end roads.
Things happen, but everything ends
When things are going well for you, you don’t focus so much on what happens to you when things become negative. It’s in those moments when you think that the world is ending.
Have you ever stopped to think about those happy times in your relationship? Surely not as often as the moment when the relationship fell apart and shattered into pieces.
You think that the world is closing in on you. Your negative emotions are powerful and you feed them by not accepting them, while you keep telling yourself that you don’t deserve any of what is happening to you.
But even if everything seems so dramatic right now, it will pass.
You stopped living in the present and are concentrating too much on your past and the future. It’s carried you along a road full of expectations, dreams, and a lack of presence in the here and now.
You didn’t choose what’s happening to you, but if you accept it as if you did, you will be much better equipped to handle it.
There’s always something positive to get out of all bad things that may happen to you. All you have to do is look at your situation from another point of view.
“Before you go, don’t forget: No One Is Important Enough to Make You Bitter”
Keep moving forward no matter what, take control of your life, and don’t let your negative thoughts hold you back.
Things always end because nothing lasts forever. So look at what’s going on in an optimistic light and take the good it offers.
You may not believe it, but you’ll come out of it stronger, full of new experiences, and with a new perspective from which to see the good side of things.
Because bad things always have a positive side. If you allow yourself, you’ll learn more than you ever expected.