5 Tips to Have a Loving Child

You have to be the role model for a loving child. How you treat others, and especially them, will influence how your child expresses their feelings
5 Tips to Have a Loving Child
Bernardo Peña

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Bernardo Peña.

Last update: 15 December, 2022

How many parents dream of those great big hugs they get from their kids? When they arrive home from work they’re so happy to have affectionate children. Having a loving child is very satisfying for a parent and it’s also not so hard to achieve, believe it or not.

There are some circumstances in which a child isn’t able to express their good emotions. This could be due to emotional trauma or a lack of affection.

If your child is not very loving, the first thing to do is to find out what happened and how you can help them.

It’s not a lost cause!

If you give you child plenty of love and understanding it can erase any bad habits that they have. That’s why today we want to share some of the best recommendations to help your child be more sweet and loving.

How to have a loving child

Children love to imitate their elders. That’s why it’s so important to have good role models before them.

If you want your child to be loving, one of the best ways to achieve this is to teach them to be loving towards other people and develop those actions and habits, which include: smiling, greeting others with affection, and being attentive to other people.

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Loving Child
Some parents often reward little ones in ways that are not with affection, such as toys, candy, or money. Rather than fulfilling their duties as parents, however, when they do this they create a vacuum. There are times when the best reward should be a hug or a kiss from a parent.

Giving them love is what they need. If you want to have a loving child, you must begin as the guide and help them express their feelings towards the people they are close to. Every step will lead to good results.

1-Show them affection

Wake up your child in the morning with hugs and kisses, just like when they are going to bed. This habit will enable them to repeat it with their friends and family, improving your relationships and making them a more caring person at the same time.

Love never hurts. Generosity is a virtue that should be encouraged from an early age. Giving love, contrary to what some people think, is a characteristic of strong people. Affection is deeply tied to good deeds. A person who does good things has affection in their heart.

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2-Make them feel safe

Many children doubt their parents’ love due to the lack of certain gestures, and they feel like they don’t express the love for their children. These kids can become rebellious over time.

There are times you can share with your children, such as watching TV, reading, eating, playing, and even sleeping. When you spend time with them they feel more secure and you’ll have a more loving child.

Make your kids feel safe

3-Guarantee a home that’s free from violence

Your child may cause you some stress or worry, but it’s best to know how to control those emotions.

If you don’t do this, you may wind up shouting or even physically hurting them. The only thing that will achieve is bringing them farther away from the idea of being affectionate with others, and especially with you.

If you learn how to manage these emotions you’ll avoid consequences that you’ll regret in the future.

4-Teach them the value of respect

When your child goes with you to the store, for a walk, or anywhere outside the home, they pay attention to how you treat other people.

If you’re the kind of person who greets others with lots of love and respect, it probably won’t be difficult to raise a loving child. By teaching them this, you’re demonstrating the respect that they should have for others.

5-Be an example

Greet everyone with affection, talk about the things you love doing, be generous to those in need, and instill these values in your child.

Children always want to be like their parents, so always try to look like a superhero to them because you’re the person they most admire.


Nowadays, technology has been taking us away from the affection we share with other people. By sharing all our love through a screen, it makes it harder to deal with relatives, friends, and others. Don’t let this harm your children because in order to be affectionate people, they need to see it from you first.

Every child has a different world. There will be some whose personality traits don’t allow them to be very expressive. There are times when you can help as a parent, however.

Make them feel more secure, teach them good values, and provide them with lots of kisses and hugs. Dedicate these moments to your children because they’ll thank you for them in the future.

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This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.