8 Things Lasting Relationships Have in Common

Lasting relationships have learned to respect each other's individuality and make the most of every moment. In addition, they're creative and don't let themselves get stuck in ruts. Learn more in this article.
8 Things Lasting Relationships Have in Common

Last update: 12 May, 2022

Many people who fail to achieve a stable relationship admire those who are in lasting relationships. After all, it’s beautiful to know couples who happily celebrate every new year together.

Many people dream of finding a partner for the rest of their lives, but this doesn’t always seem very easy to achieve. Therefore, we’ve identified the things that lasting relationships have in common.

8 Things that Lasting Relationships Have in Common

It’s clear that there’s no magic guide to having lasting relationships. However, the 8 things we’ll show you are a great foundation to achieve it.

1. Don’t Stop Communicating

The couples that stay together for years have dialogue as one of their fundamental pillars. They can talk calmly about things that bother them. Also, they can talk about what they’re going through that might affect the relationship.

It’s important to also know how to talk about and listen to the not-so-pleasant things in addition to the good ones. It’s obvious that over time, you will go through lots of different circumstances. Therefore, you must be vigilant and never stop communicating.

2. Pay Attention to Details

Lasting relationships pay attention to details.

In the beginning of a relationship, details are very important.A kiss good morning, a greeting at noon, a surprise on Valentine’s Day. Everything is worth its weight in gold!

However, lasting couples keep paying attention to details as time goes on. For example, they may send a little love note to the office or dedicate a song on the radio.

Similarly, being present for every achievement is a priority to nurture affection and maintain a healthy relationship. If things don’t go as expected, a simple hug may be enough.

3. Endless Fights Don’t Lead to Lasting Relationships

Another thing that lasting relationships have in common is that they avoid endless fights. Fighting for no reason is not on their agenda, and negotiating calmly works better.

In fact, one of the keys is to never go to bed angry with each other. If there’s a problem, it’s better to discuss and resolve the differences before falling asleep.

4. They Always Trust Each Other

Lasting relationships have full confidence in each other, and they’re sure that they’ll always have their partner’s full support. Also, they overcome the insecurities that they have.

There’s no place for jealousy, or to feel like they’re being left out. Actually, they understand that they’re a team, and they function as such. Their relationship is so solid that it even can’t be broken by a third party.

Read this article: What to Do When You Have Trust Issues

5. Humor and Fun is a Part of the Relationship

Lasting relationships like to laugh and have fun together.

Surely, if you look around to find marriages that have spent much of their lives together, you’ll see that they love having fun together. Therefore, good humor and fun is contagious and helps couples share joy together.

Lasting relationships allow themselves to laugh, sing, dance and even joke in public playing like children. Those same activities that they did in the early stages are still present. The idea is to not lose the magic of feeling young and happy.

6. Lasting Relationships Keep Sex Interesting

Sexual relationships at all ages give you a feeling of renewed energy and an unmistakable connection. Lasting relationships have learned to have quality sex during their journey in love.

By this we don’t mean how frequently they have sex, but rather the intensity of each time. Trying new sex positions keeps things exciting, as well as learning what each other truly likes.

7. Respect for Individuality

As in all relationships, you can’t lose respector there will be no turning back. Therefore, this is what lasting relationships all understand.

Respect isn’t just about being cordial or using beautiful words. It means giving the space that the other person needs to feel good. Understand that everyone has personal space that you shouldn’t invade.

Also, respect is about considering other people’s feelings before acting. Not everyone reacts the same, so it’s a good idea to put yourself in their shoes.

8. Lasting Relationships End the Day Together

One of the things lasting relationships do is say goodnight every night with a kiss and go to bed at the same time. It’s a way to spend a few minutes alone after being apart during the day.


Lasting relationships are great role-models for how to have a happy, healthy relationship.

You might have enough emotional maturity to use these tips with your partner. However, those that are doing it make it look a lot easier than it is. It’s about adapting, giving and taking, and making every moment a ritual that allows for a better connection. It’s about having a vision of your partner from another perspective, more relaxed and grateful for another day together.

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