How to Build a Healthy Romantic Relationship with Your Partner

In a healthy romantic relationship, partners must reach a stage of mutual understanding. Both partners should also help one another through hard times.
How to Build a Healthy Romantic Relationship with Your Partner
Valeria Sabater

Written and verified by psychologist Valeria Sabater.

Last update: 09 October, 2022

People who obsess about finding the ideal partner will suffer constantly in their quest to establish a healthy, romantic relationship. First, no one’s perfect; however, there are people with whom we can build a life together.

Second, given that we’re also not perfect, we can, however, find the key to a successful and long-lasting relationship through consistent actions. For instance, enjoying each other’s company, laughing with each other, being civil and understanding, solving problems together, are just a few examples.

Finally, being ourselves in a relationship, not feeling judged or manipulated, and having fun with our partner are already great achievements. So, in today’s article, we’re going to talk about the importance of having a healthy romantic relationship.

Healthy romantic relationships don’t just happen

Our journey toward emotional growth and a healthy romantic relationship undergoes many changes throughout our lives. To love someone requires a bit of wisdom, a magic connection, and a good portion of self-respect. This last aspect tells us who we should continue dating and who we shouldn’t.

We encourage you to think about all of these aspects for a moment. This will help you to understand what is needed to encourage a mature and conscious relationship that makes happiness a common goal in your life.


Your partner should not extinguish the fire that feeds your soul

Some people are extroverts. This means they’re geared more toward enthusiasm, amusement, sharing moments with other people and sharing their best energy. However, there are times when extroverts don’t always choose to have a relationship with the “right person.”

For instance, there are some people who don’t like it when their partner is open with other people. Or they don’t like it when their partner is the bright spark in every meeting or the life of the party because it makes them feel “hindered.”

Things to consider:

  • People with low self-esteem tend to have complicated romantic relationships; they want to “control” their partner “extinguish” their partner’s enthusiasm and energy.
  • Romantic relationships involve different personalities, so problems may arise.
  • Sometimes love isn’t enough, especially when a third component appears: distrust.
  • Distrustful people could say the following things: “you’re always interested in everyone else but me,” whenever you’re happy it seems like you don’t care about me.”

We must be careful in these types of situations. When we notice that our personality has changed, that our soul doesn’t have as much “fire” in it as it used to have, and we walk on eggshells around our partner, we have truly stopped being ourselves.

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You know it’s time to make a decision when you stop being yourself. Sadly, you don’t recognize your reflection in the mirror because you’re a remnant of your past happiness.

Being in a healthy, romantic relationship means, above all, creating happiness together. However, if your relationship brings nothing but sadness in your life and you lose your integrity, you may start to feel depressed. But you don’t have to let this happen.

Someone who truly loves you will make you laugh

It doesn’t matter if he likes modern music and you like classical music, or that he likes to stay at home and you like doing outdoor activities:

  • Two people don’t have to be similar to be together in a healthy romantic relationship. The most important thing is that you share the same values. The time you spend together doing nothing is pleasurable and full of mutual understanding, relaxation, and laughter.
  • People often say that great couples are best friends and that they have a great sex life. However, these popular sayings often hide a great truth.
  • This truth is that intimacy, desire, respect, and compromise are the foundations of a healthy romantic relationship. Each one of these requirements leads to something great: happiness.

It’s also important to clear up a few things about the importance of a sense of humor in a healthy romantic relationship:

  • Humor shouldn’t be used to attack your partner, like when someone is being sarcastic, for instance.
  • There are some people who use subtle and destructive language to abuse others by using sarcasm. However, humor comes in the disguise of aggression. Never let anyone ridicule you or make you feel bad when telling a joke.

Healthy couples laugh with each other, and the humor in relationships should be positive and therapeutic.

Therefore, we should always consider happiness to be the best ingredient to having a healthy romantic relationship, and smile even during hard times.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.