8 Signs Your Partner is Cheating on You
Discovering whether or not your partner is cheating on you can be easy if you pay attention to certain tips and behaviors – but these shouldn’t be considered absolute proof.
We want to share some of these signs with you mainly because, more than anything else, they may indicate that something is going wrong in the relationship.
As we’re all well aware, relationships are never without problems and sometimes they can be quite difficult to resolve. But we often try to ignore what’s really going on or the reasons why our relationship isn’t going as well as it should.
Once we finally admit that something is wrong, the problem may have grown out of control because of the prolonged lack of communication or intimacy between partners.
8 signs that your partner is cheating
They suddenly become more preoccupied with their physical appearance
Especially if they start doing something they never or rarely did before, like:
- Going to the gym or salon more often
- Overhauling their closet to get newer, more fashionable clothes
- Buying more expensive clothes
- Going on a diet because they see themselves as overweight – even though they’re not
- Starting a new exercise routine
Repeatedly mentioning a particular person
This is especially important if that person is a colleague, a friend, or someone they haven’t seen in a long time. This may not be a sign of infidelity, but it could be the start of something.
This could even mean that they wanted to tell you early on about this person, in case another person sees them talking or together and they don’t want you to suspect anything is happening.
Same goes for you catching them on the phone when you come home, or running into them together out somewhere.
Careful with their phone
Our phones are a goldmine for uncovering secrets because they store our call history, voicemails, text messages, and more. You should be concerned if your partner answers the phone in a strange way or in a hushed voice or if they walk out of the room to take a call.
You should also be worried if your partner lies about who they were talking to or the reason for the phone call, or deletes call logs and message histories immediately – especially if they never did those things before.
Watch out for the smell of perfume or cologne
If they come home smelling of someone else’s scent and when you ask they have thousands of excuses:
- “No, a vendor at the mall wanted me to test a new fragrance!”
- “My buddies were playing a joke on me!”
- “I saw an old friend who wears way too much perfume!”
Sometimes it’s better that you don’t even ask at all, because they’re certain to come up with even more excuses.
Makeup on their clothing
Be warned if you discover clothes in the hamper that have traces of makeup on them. This includes foundation, powder, lipstick, mascara, eyeliner, and more.
What about your sex life?
Infidelity usually tends to diminish the frequency of sex for a couple. It might not happen quickly, but it will gradually fall out of your routine as your partner’s infatuation with another continues and grows stronger.
See also: 5 Tips for a Better Sex Life
Nonexistent travel, imaginary hours
Inventing trips that never take place or saying they need to stay late at work because a friend was sick can be signs that your partner is cheating.
Remember that it doesn’t always have to happen in the night – it’s more common during lunch breaks or in the afternoons.
And that gift?
Are they starting to give you unexpected gifts, expensive jewelry, flowers, or something else that holds significance to you? Is it all with a loving expression?
A lot of times this is due to feelings of guilt that they want to ease by giving you things. Be especially aware if they didn’t use to make such gestures. Similarly, you should note if they occur randomly, at unexpected times or dates.
You should never ignore your intuition if you suspect your partner is cheating or that something in the relationship might need to be addressed.It might interest you...
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