Five Mistakes Jealous People Make
Many people are convinced that being jealous is a sign they love their partner. However, these types of feelings and attitudes are more about insecurity and low self-esteem — as long as they’re unfounded, that is.
It’s true that most of us are jealous at some point or another. Nevertheless, you must be clear in regard to the differences between a natural sting of jealousy and the toxic behavior that can destroy you and your partner.
These mistakes are physical and emotionally unhealthy, both for the person who’s jealous and for their relationship. Continue reading to learn about the most dangerous types of behavior in regard to this subject.
Mistakes jealous people make in their relationships
While most jealousy has to do with the person experiencing it and their fears, there are also some situations that are part of dysfunctional love games that determine how partners relate.
1. Jealous people consume their partner
Jealous people are very insecure, and this makes them try to control their partner at all times. They want their significant other all to themselves. They can’t stand the dead that they might like someone else.
This can make the other person feel very depressed and want a little space in their relationship. This undoubtedly upsets the jealous partner. However, overwhelming them can lead to a breakup.
However, jealous people don’t realize what the other person is feeling. Their jealousy nullifies their empathy.
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2. They continuously search for evidence
There’s something called the Pygmalion effect which indicates that if a person believes that something is going to happen or acts as if it does happen then, in the end, it does happen. This happens to jealous people who are continuously searching for a sign that their partner is cheating on them.
Any message or contact with someone can trigger an argument full of criticisms and phrases like “You don’t love me.” This type of attitude can lead them to end up finding what they were looking for. It’s like their behavior is a call to make what they suspected happen.
3. They won’t seek help
The negative part of jealous people and the fact that they believe that they’re normal or that they’re showing love for their partner is that they refuse to believe that they’re a problem in their relationship. This causes the relationship to deteriorate and, over time, the relationship ends up becoming very toxic for both parties involved.
Seeking help is very positive. This way, the communication between both partners would improve and the jealousy would be seen as unfounded beliefs and the result of unnecessary fears.
4. Jealousy doesn’t disappear overnight
As much as a jealous partner in a romantic relationship says, “I’ll change,” the truth is that this is a process and it’s always positive to seek professional help.
Jealous people can make several promises when their overwhelmed partner threatens to leave them. However, you must keep in mind it’s going to be a long process. You must get rid of certain beliefs that make you think jealousy is “normal” in a relationship.
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5. Jealous people are often explosive
Jealous people are always moody due to their distrust and often have a fit when they find any small piece of “evidence.” This only tires their partners. In fact, many of them just begin to lie in order to avoid these kinds of confrontations.
Jealous people often end up losing it after several confrontations and the consequences are often tragic under the wrong circumstances.
The jealous person must change, for the sake of both
Finally, it would be great if jealous people could realize that trying to control their partners isn’t a good solution. Thus, it’s them who must change their perspective in regard to their relationship and jealousy. Only then will they be able to maintain a healthy connection.
Otherwise, excessive jealousy will lead to a break-up in most cases. This is because it’s a highly uncomfortable situation.
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