Love in Middle Age: When Two Souls are Wise

31 October, 2018
Love has no boundaries, it can happen anywhere, at any time, and at any age. Learn the benefits of discovering love in middle age.

Love in middle age might seem, at first glance, just the same as any other type of love. But for those who experience it, it can be the culmination of their lives. It’s an opportunity for them to find themselves with another person with whom they’re compatible both mentally and emotionally.

The oddest thing about love in middle age is that it comes about unexpectedly. It’s not uncommon for people to have gone through several emotional failures or even reached the point of closing off their hearts to avoid future suffering.

But as happens often, things come about when you least expect them. Even in the middle of a seemingly unimportant conversation, worlds can come together subtly, opening up a whole new universe.

Today, we invite you to delve a little deeper into the topic of love in middle age.

People who experience love in middle age: the calmest, the wisest

Let’s start by clarifying one very important thing: when you reach middle age, you’ve have decades of experience under your belt.

Nevertheless, the maturity of the soul, mind, and heart isn’t necessary related to the number of years you live – it’s gained from the wisdom and values you’ve gathered over time.

That’s why some people reach the age of 50 with the irresponsibility and immaturity of a teenager. Others, however, arrive at middle age with an inner balance achieved by learning from all of their experiences, where the future looks bright and filled with optimism, serenity, and the eagerness to continue experiencing the world.

A couple that has found love in middle age

Two souls who connect, each with their own baggage

We have all lived, we’ve all felt, we’ve all loved, and we’ve all lost. That’s why when starting a new relationship it doesn’t make sense to forget everything that’s in the past or erase all our old loves just to focus on the present.

  • The mind doesn’t forget, it transforms and builds new memories.
  • That’s why love at middle age can lead to a wise and fulfilling relationship in which a couple accepts everything from the past. They do so because because it has helped them understand what they want from the present, as well as what they are unwilling to stand.
  • They are two people whose triumphs and pain will meet, and in turn they will understand that being a good partner doesn’t mean they need to be identical, but rather respect each other’s differences.
  • Love at middle age will involve a good amount of balance, but rather than hiding it, the couple can discuss it with the trust that comes from two people who understand and respect the other’s past.

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The maturity of enjoying the present to the fullest

You might not have the youthfulness you had when you were 20, but that’s not necessarily what you want, either. Couples who have found happiness at middle age know and understand that they are in the best time of their lives, not longing for the past or fearing for the future.

  • There’s no better way to enjoy this time than through a love that excites you and serves to tie you to the earth around you and yourself. It’s like finding what you had always dreamed of so you can live in the “here and now,” strengthening your identity and your self-esteem.
The leaf represents love in middle age

Love on your own terms

When you reach middle age, you have gone through a lot of phases in life. Perhaps you have married, had children, or gotten divorced.

Regardless, after all your experiences, you know exactly what it is that you want.

This can give you a great sense of peace because, once the years go by and everyone “becomes a real person,” it provides an added value that you can bring to a relationship.

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Eternal youth also resides in the ability to love

Being young at heart is a virtue you must strive for every day. Without a doubt, it starts with loving yourself.

  • If you take the steps toward deciding to start a new relationship  and find love in middle age, the youthfulness inside you will fill you with enthusiasm, passion, desire, and emotion.
  • Love has no age, no race, and no color. Few things are as universal as the hearts of those who light up side by side to follow a common path.

While it’s true that, over the years, most people come to be characterized by intelligence and reflection, everyone can switch on that ageless passion known as love.

That a wonderful place that you find when you least expect it. Nevertheless, it’s worth fighting for every day.

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