Three True Laws of Life

· January 20, 2017
It’s important that the laws of your life be based on ethics and respect for those around you. Don’t desire something for others that you wouldn’t want for yourself

The true laws of life aren’t set by a legal code, family rules, or today’s gurus who try to convince you how to be happy.

The laws of life make themselves known when, little by little, you learn where the limits are, develop your sense of respect and coexistence, and in that magic that allows you to enjoy a life that’s in harmony with others.

There are plenty of things that can’t be learned in books: you discover them by making mistakes, through observation and deduction, and by interacting with others. You eventually find happiness, but no doubt you have also known pain.

Mario Benedetti said in one of his poems that you can complain about anything, that suffering occurs because all roses have thorns and any day a storm can occur.

If you focus on “wanting to suffer,” you’re guaranteed to suffer. But sometimes it’s enough to have a humble heart and to give thanks for the fact that you’re alive even though the rose has its thorns – after all, it’s part of what makes it beautiful

That’s why you need to understand that the balance of your daily life is in your attitude and those laws of life that you impose on yourself to become a little happier.

Today we encourage you to reflect on these aspects in the hopes that they’ll help you.

1. The laws of life: live without pretense

The first of these laws is to learn to live apart from appearances. If you think about it, your world is already filled with falsehoods, many from the images that the marketing industry uses to influence your daily activities.

  • The world of advertising, fashion, and television is based on those false appearances that too many people try to imitate or achieve.
  • And what’s something that you don’t see very often in your immediate surroundings? Authenticity.

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Authenticity is that humble attitude where nothing is sought or intended, you just express yourself as you are – this is not something that many people invest in.

This need to camouflage oneself is driven by a set of psychological processes that is necessary to be able to recognize:

  • Low self-esteem and feelings of insecurity about not being accepted if you show yourself as you truly are
  • The need to be validated. Appearances and falsehoods make you believe that this is how society will accept you.
  • Falsehood also hides an identity that wants attention (if you perceive me as a kind person, I’ll gain your confidence and get something from you).

2. The laws of life: love without dependence

Another dimension that most people discover throughout their lives is the fact that love means nothing if it’s based on dependence.

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Few dimensions require as much expressiveness, freedom, authenticity, and character as love does.

  • If your relationship is characterized by a dependence on your partner, to the point of diluting yourself and becoming a shadow of the one you love, it will gradually weaken you to the point of frustration.
  • Dependence in love generates unhappiness, and eventually, depression will appear.
  • Few laws of life are as wise as the ones that advise you to love yourself first.
  • In today’s society, however, and even in your family, we are constantly reminded that in love everything is worth it, and if you truly love someone you’ll give it until your last breath.
  • While it’s true that there are many different types of love, what you can never do is renounce your true self. No matter if it is your child or your partner.

In the first place, this is because “giving up” yourself doesn’t mean giving the best of yourself to those that we love. Someone with low self-esteem is lacking some measure of their vitality, their psychic and emotional energies.

Be a creator of love, don’t be submissive. Be the architect of a healthy relationship, not simply a dependent.

3. The laws of life: speak without offense

Eric Berne was the father of the “Transactional Analysis.”

This psychological approach teaches us that we also build our identity and self-esteem based on the emotional and social transactions and exchanges we receive from others who educate us and interact with us every day.

  • When you “charge” your words with hidden offensiveness, irony, or scorn it causes what Eric Berne defined as a negative emotional caress.
  • This type of “caress” through language can do more damage than a blow or physical aggression. It’s a personal violation that people sometimes do without even realizing it.
  • There are people who shout instead of talking. There are people who are used to hate, who make jokes thinking that while the words are funny, all they achieve is harm.

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It’s important to be careful with how you speak, your tone, and to choose words wisely so that your emotional touch is always positive.

In this way you invest in your coexistence and respect for others.