The Laws of Life: 3 Basic Principles

· March 25, 2019
It’s important that the laws of your life be based on ethics and respect for those around you. Don’t desire something for others that you wouldn’t want for yourself.

The true laws of life aren’t set by a legal code, family rules or today’s gurus who try to convince you how to be happy.

How You Come to Know the Laws of Life

The laws of life make themselves known when, little by little, you learn where limits are, as well as develop your sense of respect and coexistence. You also find them in that magic that allows you to enjoy a life that’s in harmony with others.

There are plenty of things that you can’t learn in books. You discover them by making mistakes, through observation and deduction, as well as by interacting with others. You eventually find happiness. However, no doubt you have also known pain.

Mario Benedetti said in one of his poems that you can complain about anything and that suffering occurs because all roses have thorns. He also said any day a storm can occur.

Don’t focus on “wanting to suffer.” Otherwise, you’ll certainly suffer. Sometimes, it’s enough to have a humble heart and to give thanks for the fact that you’re alive even though the rose has its thorns. After all, they’re part of what makes it beautiful.

That’s why you need to understand that the balance of your daily life lies in your attitude and those laws of life that you impose on yourself to become a little happier.

Today, we encourage you to reflect on these aspects in the hope that they’ll help you.

The Laws of Life: 3 Principles That Lead You to Happiness

Law of Life No. 1: Live Without Pretense

The laws of life teach us that, to be happy, we should live without pretense.

The first of these laws is to learn to live apart from appearances. If you think about it, the world is already full of falsehoods. Many come from the images that the marketing industry uses to influence your daily activities.

The world of advertising, fashion and television feeds those false appearances. Unfortunately, many people try to imitate or achieve them. And what’s something that you don’t see very often in your immediate surroundings? Authenticity.

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Authenticity is that humble attitude where you seek or intend nothing. Rather, you just express yourself as you are. This isn’t something that many people invest in.

A set of psychological processes drives the need to camouflage oneself. It’s necessary to be able to recognize them:

  • Low self-esteem and feelings of insecurity about not being accepted if you show yourself as you truly are.
  • The need to be validated. Appearances and falsehoods make you believe that they’re how society will accept you.
  • The need for attention. For example, if you perceive me as a kind person, I’ll gain your confidence and get something from you.

Law of Life No. 2: Love Without Dependence

The laws of life also teach us that it's healthier to love without dependence.

Another aspect that most people discover throughout their lives is the fact that love means nothing if it’s based on dependence.

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Few things require as much expressiveness, freedom, authenticity and character as love does.

If your relationship is based on a dependence on your partner to the point of diluting yourself and becoming a shadow of that person, it’ll gradually weaken you to the point of frustration. Dependence on love generates unhappiness, and eventually, depression will appear.

Few laws of life are as wise as the ones that advise you to love yourself first. Besides, while it’s true that there are many different types of love, what you can never do is renounce your true self, no matter if it’s parental or romantic.

Giving of yourself doesn’t mean giving up yourself. Be a creator of love, but don’t be submissive. Be the architect of a healthy relationship.

Law of Life No. 3: Speak Without Offense

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Eric Berne is the father of transactional analysis. According to this psychological approach, people also build their identity and self-esteem based on their emotional and social transactions and exchanges with others who interact with them every day.

  • When you “charge” your words with hidden offensiveness, irony or scorn, it causes what Eric Berne defined as a negative emotional caress.
  • This type of “caress” through language can do more damage than a blow or physical aggression. It’s a personal violation that people sometimes make without even realizing it.
  • There are people who shout instead of talking. There are also people who are used to hating or who make jokes thinking that they’re just being funny. While their words may be funny, all they achieve is harm.

It’s important that you choose your words wisely and be careful with your tone so that your emotional touch is always positive.

In this way, you invest in your coexistence and respect for others.

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