How to Help Her Get that Orgasm

11 July, 2020
Women's sexuality has been a silent topic for years. Prejudice and the lack of information are the main reasons why a woman doesn't reach orgasm 
Do you know what the Greek word kleitoris means? It means: little mountain. What we know as the clitoris actually comes from the word kleitoris. In other words, it’s an organ that can bring immense pleasure to a woman.

The clitoris is made up of hundreds of nerve endings and blood vessels that aren’t related to the urinary system.

However, that isn’t to say that women can only reach a female orgasm by having their clitoris stimulated. The entire body actually plays a role in the process.

Orgasms require strokes, kisses and massages before vaginal penetration.

Definition of the female orgasm

female orgasm

In medical terms, an orgasm is defined as a sexual response of an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tension.

However, although many people believe that orgasms result only from genital stimulation, they can also happen from non-genital stimulation as well.

How can you take her there?

First, what you need to know is that every woman is different. There are some women that like to try new things, and there are others that don’t like to leave their comfort zone.

Basically, a smooth, gentle approach is just as valid as a more intense one depending on the case. There two kinds of approches:

  • Direct: Putting pressure directly on the gland.
  • Indirect: Playing around and massaging different areas of the body.

What we recommend most is combining both of them. Both a woman and her partner should know and explore her body because that’s the only way of figuring out which techniques, positions and intensity level works best.

We’d like to remind you that women need lubrication in order to avoid undesired consequences. For extra lubrication, saliva or special lubricants make fine options.

You should avoid oil because it can damage latex condoms.

Use brain power

Use brain power

A lot of people are scared to play around using an indirect approach, but they aren’t aware that the brain is also considered a sexual organ.

Erotically fantasizing can help you reach high sexual heights.

In metaphorical terms, this means that the mind converts itself into a erogenous zone where words can act as a frisky hand.

The reasoning? The amygdala can be stimulated. The amygdala is the part of the brain where fears, emotions and pleasure are stored. So, it turns out that sweet whispers are an absolute must.

Also read: Do You Still Believe These 5 Myths about Sex?

What happens when she’s aroused?

As soon as a woman enters a state of arousal, blood pumps throughout the erectile tissue.

Consequently, the gland and bulbs increase in size. The majora and minora labias  harden and dilate until the external genitals and vagina lubricate the area.

During this process, blood carries chemical substances to the brain, which transmit the feeling of pleasure.

How can you know if a women reaches a female orgasm? The muscles of the pelvic floor contract, resulting in involuntary contractions. In addition, heartbeat, breathing and blood pressure all quicken.

It’s at that moment when thousands of hormones and chemical substances are released into blood flow. Contrary to men, women can still be stimulated afterwards and can experience multiple orgasms.

Basic tricks

Basic tricks
  • Never forget about foreplay. You can never stroke too much and the you should aim to see how the zone reacts to different types of stimulation.
  • Break routine. Even switching up the place where you have sex can revive the passion.
  • Erotic toys are a good idea for exploring the body while having sex.
  • Using lubricants aids penetration.
  • What is your partner’s fantasy? Do you think you could make it happen? It’s important to talk about it.

To wrap up, it’s all about exploring and not going straight for the genitals. Visit her entire body, from her feet to head, to increase blood flow and sensitivity.

The key is in starting slow and gradually pick up the pace.

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