Silly Arguments with Your Partner: How to Avoid Them

January 30, 2017
Communication in a relationship prevents silly arguments. We must be able to talk about everything and not bottle up our emotions.

Arguments are normal in a relationship, but what about all those arguments that start because of something silly? Silly arguments can destroy our relationship, so we have to learn how to avoid them.

Have you ever heard the expression that we can sometimes make a mountain out of a molehill? This happens in arguments between partners.

However, many times the main reason for a quarrel is lack of communication and not listening to each other.


Both talking and listening are equally important in a relationship. Understanding each other well and making things clear is fundamental.

If we don’t do this, then silly arguments can crop up and we’ll encounter problems that will affect our relationship. That is why it’s important to learn how to avoid them effectively.

Social networks and communication with your partner

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Using social networking sites can be a fantastic option to stay in touch with your partner, but can also lead to serious conflicts.

Misunderstandings, words that mean one thing but are understood as another, jealousy, and accepting certain third parties as friends can all lead to silly arguments that could have been avoided.

It’s better to speak with your partner face to face, even if it’s via Skype. Call them and avoid sending them messages that can lead to misunderstandings.

In addition, any problems or doubts that may arise regarding social networks should be communicated as soon as possible. The worst thing you can do in a relationship is to keep things to yourself.

Talking is always the first step towards a solution. Of course, don’t communicate through SMS but rather face-to-face. This is the best way two people can understand each other.

Beware of bottling up your emotions

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Many silly arguments arise when one partner finally tells the other something they’ve been bottling up. When this happens, there are several issues that need to be addressed.

When we don’t express ourselves in a disagreement, we don’t forget about our unhappiness, even though we appear to ignore it. The problem is that our feelings usually spill out at the least opportune moment and may cause an argument.

Do you know a good way to avoid this? Take time out to talk about the relationship. This will allow you to tell your partner about everything that you have kept bottled up because you haven’t found the time to express it.

It’s necessary to tell your partner the important things running through your mind, even if you think this takes great effort. It may be foolish, but not doing this may trigger a silly argument.

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The big problem that many couples face today is that their communication in the relationship is not entirely sincere and open. Therefore, we continue to hold on to things which will continue to hurt us in the future.

Never be afraid to share what you think and feel with your partner.

Don’t let past problems resurface

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This is something that has a lot to do with bottling up our emotions. This is because we continuously look towards the past, or in other words towards those situations or moments that hurt us.

It’s a hard and cruel way of comparing your current reality with a problem you had in the past, which had supposedly already been solved, but now crops up again.

We must learn to look forward in order to walk towards a promising future, instead of remaining anchored in past experiences that prevent us from moving on.

There are many people who aren’t able to live fully in the present, as they have not gotten over past experiences. Fears, doubts, traumatic experiences: we need to overcome all these as soon as possible.

As the common saying goes, better late than never. Why not solve all those issues now in the present? Don’t keep all your feelings bottled up in a relationship and leave situations unsolved.

Pareja-enfada-dándose-la-espaldaSilly Arguments: Final Thoughts

A relationship must be taken care of, and even pampered. In order to do this, we mustn’t bottle up our emotions to try to eliminate reproach. Instead, we must forgive our partner, and most importantly, communicate with them.

Talk to your partner, face to face, without feeling self-conscious, without being afraid to say certain things. Being in a relationship means feeling free to communicate what you’re feeling and what you’re thinking.

This prevents silly arguments.

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