You Attract People Who Are a Reflection of You
Believe it or not, you attract people that are nothing but your own reflection. It may be hard to admit, but you invited these toxic people into your life.
It wasn’t anything you said, and you didn’t go looking for it. However, the energy you give off will attract people that you don’t want to attract.
Can you put an end to this? Learn more in this article.
You Attract People Who Reflect You: Learn from Them
First of all, it’s important to learn from your mistakes. Not every fall is a failure. It’s an opportunity to realize that you’re not doing things right.
It’s the same with people.
Learn from everything that is happening around you. Open your eyes: you attract people who are a reflection of you.
You may feel sorry for yourself because you’ve been hurt by those around you. However, have you noticed that it’s always the same story?
Don’t blame your partners. You can’t fall into the role of the victim. It’s important to consider that the problem may be you. You must be doing something wrong to keep ending up with the same type of person. You attract people like this for a reason.
Maybe you’re not saying what you think from the start. Perhaps you submit or you let your partner take the reins of the relationship and control you. If you’re acting like this, it will be impossible for you to be with someone different.
You have the power to end this. However, you just need to pay attention to how you’re behaving.
If, for example, you stop liking a person you’ve been in a relationship with after a few months and this always happens, maybe the problem is that you idealize them too much from the beginning.
We accept the love we believe we deserve
Do you respect yourself? Love yourself? Do you value yourself?
These are simple questions, but don’t answer them too quickly. Sometimes ,we think the answer is “yes” when it actually isn’t.
If you attract people who don’t respect you, maybe you should start considering that you aren’t respecting yourself. You may be trying to give that important responsibility to others.
Why do they say they love you if they don’t? Perhaps because you aren’t able to love yourself, because you’re looking for others to love you in order to feel fulfilled and not so empty.
You may use relationships to run away from what scares you: loneliness.
Although you may consciously be trying to find someone who compliments you, subconsciously, the love you think you deserve may be very poor.
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If you don’t value yourself, it’s impossible to attract people who value you. How can you find what you aren’t even able to give yourself?
You may think you don’t deserve that much love, that you aren’t good enough for anybody, that you’re worthless, that you are less attractive than everyone else… This is not true.
Stop comparing yourself and self-destructing. You are authentic, unique, and deserve the best. Thinking otherwise won’t make you happy or make you attract the type of person who could contribute something to your life.
Accept yourself and discover who you are
Just because you inhabit your body doesn’t mean you know yourself. If you identify with some of the above, you have a long way to go.
You must fall in love with the person you see every morning in the mirror. In spite of your imperfections and flaws, you are authentic, natural, beautiful–you!
Don’t let your own thoughts get drowned out in all the noise. Dive in to discover what you really want. Find out what really makes you happy and remove everything that doesn’t contribute anything positive from your life. This includes the activities that keep taking you down the same road.
Before you go, don’t forget:
The people you attract don’t hurt you on their own. You invited them into your life.
Stop wasting time and energy trying to change them; stop feeling sorry for the bad luck you had in finding them. Now is the time to act. Now is the time to focus on you.
You shouldn’t look for what you’re lacking in others because they aren’t going to give it to you. That will just make you feel empty. People come into your life and many don’t stay forever. The one who will never abandon you, who you can always count on, is you.
Learn to love yourself and take care of yourself, because you deserve it.
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