What Happens to People Who Were Unloved During Their Childhood

26 December, 2019
Not expressing love to children during their childhood can make them suffer from a lot of emotional shortcomings in the future, as well as an inability to empathize

Love is the vital energy that makes the world go round. We were all born to love and be loved, but what happens to people who were unloved as children? Apparently, this is the cause of many behavioral problems.

When a baby is born, they should enjoy the protection and security that only maternal love can provide. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case, and it can cause huge consequences.

This is reflected years later in a person’s behavior and the way they relate to others.

Consequences of Being Unloved as a Child

Being unloved as a child can lead to unimaginable consequences in adulthood. Here we list a few of them.

  1. Indifference to the Suffering of Others and Apathy

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This is one of the consequences of the lack of maternal love during childhood.

Generally, people who were unloved as children are really indifferent. They have difficulty empathizing with what others feel.

People who were unloved during their childhood have an apathetic behavior, which can affect their close relationships.

Many of their problems are undoubtedly the result of a profound disinterest and apathy to what others feel.

Adults who weren’t loved as children or were deprived of maternal love for some reason are indifferent to other people’s pain.

Also, it’s difficult for them to express their feelings, so they choose to turn them off.

See also: 6 Steps to Heal Emotional Scars from Childhood

  1. Trouble Relating and Expressing Feelings

    upset child and mother consoling him

Being unloved as a child is the beginning of a chain of future problematic generations.

  • When a person who didn’t experience maternal or paternal love grows up and has children, their children will suffer the consequences of their loveless childhood.
  • Love during childhood is what makes human beings loyal and authentic.

The altruistic capabilities that people must develop as they grow are the result of the love they received during the first stages of their lives.

Maternal love is based on the most basic instincts of our humanity, which also represents the universality and the peace and brotherhood in our relationships with others.

The lack of maternal love in the first years of a person’s life makes them not develop empathy as they should.

We can’t ignore the fact that any unmet need in our childhood is reflected in adulthood in our behavior. This is why many people hold grudges or have a lot of resentment and remain unmoved by other people’s suffering.

Generally, people who were unloved as children wait unconsciously for their needs to be met. This creates a lot of behavioral consequences and hinders their ability to love and express love.

We recommend that you read: Avoid Having Bad Luck in Love

The Importance of Showing Love to Children

upset teenage girl

Showing children love is extremely important for several reasons, since people humanize during childhood.

A person who was unloved as a child was raised with an emotional void. This will be reflected in their future aggressive behavior since their initial adaptation occurred in a loveless environment.

Lack of love in the early stages affects the child and, thus, also future generations. These future generations with huge emotional voids can threaten humanity itself.

The problem is that, although this lack of love during childhood has dire consequences for adults, there are still many cases of children who are being raised with huge emotional voids.

The love that a child receives from birth has unimaginable power over the development of future altruistic skills, love, and empathy.

If you want to make sure your children don’t suffer from these shortcomings and remain scarred forever, you must give them the affection they need and deserve.

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