Sexual Satisfaction and Tips for the Bedroom

14 January, 2020
Satisfying your partner sexually is about more than just sex. It involves an emotional connection as well as the physical one. That's why there's some important things you should keep in mind.
Everything related to the subject of sexual satisfaction depends on the culture and ideology of each society. That’s why everyone has such different ideas about this concept. The differences exist on an individual level as well. That’s why it’s important to keep in mind that prejudices and ideas that you have about sex can influence how you feel and behave sexually.
That being said, how is sexual satisfaction defined in general terms?

Sexual satisfaction is a human need

Sexual satisfaction is defined as the perception and evaluation that a person makes about their sex life. This includes the number of sexual encounters that they may have, any kind of activity that they might do and the communication between a set of partners.

The team of psychologists from Aesthesis explain that an individual experiences sexual satisfaction when they believe that the sexual rewards are greater than the costs and is also satisfied with the relationship in and of itself.

To satisfy your partner in bed, you have to accept yourself for who you are. Leave any complexes you might have at the door, and let yourself get caught up int he moment (as long as you aren’t hurting the other person or doing something against their will, of course). If you don’t accept yourself, your intimacy could be negatively affected.

The importance of sexual satisfaction in the relationship

Sexual satisfaction between two romantic partners is more important than some people think. While relationships do depend on other factors as well, a good sex life is crucial for strengthening the bond.

However, it’s normal to have doubts about how to satisfy both parties.

Advice for the bedroom

If you want to enjoy a healthy relationship and satisfying sex, keep the following things in mind.

1. Foreplay helps with sexual satisfaction

Satisfying a woman in bed

For a great sexual experience, it’s important to take the time to get both partners aroused through foreplay. For women, foreplay is key for lubrication.

Skipping the initial phase is a common mistake that a lot of people make because they are eager for penetration and immediate satisfaction. However, when you take the time to pay attention to your partner’s erogenous zones and spend time skin-to-skin, you’ll feel closer to your partner and the experience will be more pleasurable for both parties.

So how long should foreplay last? There aren’t any hard and fast rules. It depends on sexual desire, the intimacy between partners, and their preferences.

The important thing is that both people get aroused and can enjoy the (well-lubricated) sex.

Discover: The Female Erogenous Zones

2. Don’t feel pressured to make your partner come

The idea that “successful” sex ends in ejaculation is widespread. People have that standard for men as well as women.

It’s completely normal for women to secrete something similar to semen. However, there are many other women who feel pleasure and don’t ejaculate. Or maybe they do, but it’s basically imperceptible. Does that mean they haven’t enjoyed the sex? Not at all.

Where a woman is in her menstrual cycle, erotisicsm, arousal, the kind of connection that she feels during sex and other variables influence female ejaculation.

So often, the pressure to ejaculate is counterproductive to good sex. Let go of that pressure! Whether or not your partner ejaculates isn’t always up to you, and they don’t always need to do it to experience pleasure. Just enjoy it!

3. It’s not always possible to climax at the same time

Reach climax at the same time

A lot of people believe that orgasming at the same time as your partner is essential. However, this isn’t true. Each partner can orgasm at different times, and still feel like the sex was great.

Reaching orgasm at the same time isn’t an obligation. If it happens, great. If not, that’s great too. Remember that the goal isn’t that both people climax at the same time. The goal is to enjoy the experience.

4. Multiple orgasms

A lot of women are able to keep going after having an orgasm. Even so, it’s a good idea to take up to a half-hour break.

If you want to keep going after the break, you should know that the second orgasm will come faster. The good news is that there isn’t a limit and having an orgasm one after another is possible.

Here are a few tips that might be helpful:

  • Stimulate your partner. Caress them, put your sexuality and eroticism into practice (During this phase, the stimulation should be more intense).
  • It’s a good idea to pause between orgasms.

5. Orgasmic ability

A couple kissing each other in bed.

It’s clear that all women are different and that doesn’t make anyone a bad lover. So, while there are some women that can have back-to-back orgasms, there are others that have trouble with having one.

However, there are ways that you can raise the number. Take a look at the following steps:

  • Be patient: the number of orgasms will build with each encounter. All sexual activity counts.
  • Pay attention to your partner: there are women who really don’t need more than one orgasm to feel satisfied.
  • Establish a link between affection and pleasure. In other words, during climax, shower her with caresses, kisses, and words that make her feel warm.
  • If you don’t feel like you can talk openly about sexual preferences, try to explore your tastes through other means. That can be a good way to get to know your partner.
  • Without it being a distraction for you, try out new approaches and pay attention to how your partner reacts. If they react positively, you can use it again.

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6. You don’t need to compete

Don’t try to hog all the attention. Be your partner’s companion. Think about the fact that they chose you as a partner because they like things about you. There are a lot of reasons that lead someone to choose their significant other. Mong those are emotional and social aspects.

Feeling good about other aspects of your relationship will definitely have good repercussions for your sexual life.


Sexual satisfaction doesn’t just depend on having a good time in bed. It also has a lot to do with how each person perceives themselves and their sexual lives. Whatever the case, the advice in this article could be helpful for overcoming challenges. Use them!

If you have any doubts or feel like you need to improve your sex life, you can talk to a sexologist.

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