Six Tips to Sexually Satisfy a Woman

Satisfying your partner sexually is about more than just sex. It involves an emotional connection as well as the physical one. That's why there's some important things you should keep in mind.
Six Tips to Sexually Satisfy a Woman
Bernardo Peña

Written and verified by the psychologist Bernardo Peña.

Last update: 27 May, 2022

Many people believe that in order to achieve a “complete” and “positive” sexual experience in bed, you shouldn’t just enjoy the moment, but also try to satisfy a woman in bed.

To shed some light on the subject, here we’ll discuss in more detail how “sexual satisfaction” is defined and why it’s key to understand it in order to satisfy your woman in bed.

Communication is key To satisfy a woman

Sexual satisfaction is defined as the perception and evaluation that a person makes about their sex life. This includes the number of sexual encounters that they may have, any kind of activity that they might do and the communication between a set of partners.

To satisfy your partner in bed, you have to accept yourself for who you are. Talk to them and ask them what they like, what they don’t like, what their expectations are… the more details you can know about each other, the clearer everything will be and the easier it’ll be for you to explore new “territories” together.

The sexual satisfaction of a couple contributes greatly to strengthen the bond and achieve positive experiences in bed. Although it’s true that the relationship doesn’t just depend on this, it’s a factor to take into account.

Tips to satisfy a woman in bed

If you want to enjoy a healthy relationship and satisfying sex, keep the following things in mind.

1. Foreplay helps with sexual satisfaction

Satisfying a woman in bed

For a great sexual experience, it’s important to take the time to get both partners aroused through foreplay. For women, foreplay is key for lubrication.

Skipping the initial phase is a common mistake that a lot of people make because they’re eager for penetration and immediate satisfaction. However, when you take the time to pay attention to your partner’s erogenous zones and spend time skin-to-skin, you’ll feel closer to your partner and the experience will be more pleasurable for both parties.

So how long should foreplay last? There aren’t any hard and fast rules. It depends on sexual desire, the intimacy between partners, and their preferences.

The important thing is that both people get aroused and can enjoy the (well-lubricated) sex.

2. Don’t feel pressured to make your partner come

The idea that “successful” sex ends in ejaculation is widespread. People have that standard for men as well as women.

It’s completely normal for women to secrete something similar to semen. However, there are many other women who feel pleasure and don’t ejaculate. And that’s totally fine!

Or maybe they do, but it’s basically imperceptible. Does that mean they haven’t enjoyed the sex? Not at all.

So often, the pressure to ejaculate is counterproductive to good sex. Let go of that pressure! Whether or not your partner ejaculates isn’t always up to you, and they don’t always need to do it to experience pleasure. Just enjoy it!

Where a woman is in her menstrual cycle, eroticism, arousal, the kind of connection that she feels during sex and other variables influence female ejaculation.

3. It’s not always possible to climax at the same time

A lot of people believe that orgasming at the same time as your partner is essential. However, this isn’t true. Each partner can orgasm at different times, and still feel like the sex was great.

Reaching orgasm at the same time isn’t an obligation. If it happens, great. If not, that’s great too. Remember that the goal isn’t that both people climax at the same time. The goal is to enjoy the experience.

4. Multiple orgasms

A lot of women are able to keep going after having an orgasm. Even so, it’s a good idea to take a break to make the encounter much longer, more pleasurable and satisfying for both of you.

It is recommended that during these breaks you try to stimulate your partner, not only physically, but also mentally. Caress them, whisper how beautiful they looks, put into practice all your eroticism and seduce both their body and mind. You can do this by looking into their eyes, or with your eyes closed, whichever you prefer.

If you want to keep going after the break, you should know that the second orgasm will come faster. The good news is that there isn’t a limit and having an orgasm one after another is possible.

5. No mandatory sexual gestures

In order to sexually satisfy your partner in bed, you shouldn’t force them to give certain types of responses or gestures to announce they feel pleasure. Thus, it isn’t obligatory (for anyone) to moan, gasp or scream to express pleasure.

There are people who, although they feel great pleasure, emit hardly any sound, while others do. Moreover, this may vary from one encounter to another.

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6. You don’t need to compete to satisfy a woman

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Don’t try to hog all the attention. Be your partner’s companion. Think about the fact that they chose you as a partner because they like things about you. There are a lot of reasons that lead someone to choose their significant other. Mong those are emotional and social aspects.

Feeling good about other aspects of your relationship will definitely have good repercussions for your sexual life. Undoubtedly, this will also make you happy in bed.


Satisfying a person in bed is a matter of good communication. Therefore, make it a point to get to know your partner and reach common ground.

The tips we’ve discussed above are a guide that can help you get an idea of how to achieve sexual satisfaction together, but remember, they aren’t rules to be followed to the letter.

If you have any doubts or feel like you need to improve your sex life, you can talk to a sexologist.

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