Seven Common Sex Mistakes Men Make

April 18, 2019
Real sex isn't what you see in porn. In real life, each person has different needs and tastes. In this article, discover seven common sex mistakes men make.

When it comes to sex, everyone likes different things. For this reason, if a couple doesn’t have good communication, they might not enjoy a satisfactory sex life. Also, disinformation or misinformation can lead many men to make sex mistakes. In this article, we’ll tell you what the most common sex mistakes are and how to avoid them.

Seven Sex Mistakes Men Make

1. Believing that All Women like the Same Things

We’d like to began by saying that every person is different when it comes to sex. For that reason, it’s a basic mistake to assume that there are certain practices that all women like.

This isn’t true. Despite the myths and legends, some women will like things others may not. It’s as simple as that. To avoid this mistake, communicate with your partner to get to know each other and figure out what they like and satisfies them.

For many people, it’s a definite turn-on to ask them what they like and how you can better please them.

2. Not Stimulating the Clitoris Properly

A woman with a grapefruit slice in front of her clitoris.

The clitoris is a sexual organ that’s key to female orgasm. For this reason, not stimulating the clitoris during intercourse is one of the most common sex mistakes.

However, the clitoris is an extremely sensitive organ that should be stimulated very gently.

After all, simply stimulating the clitoris isn’t enough… You have to do it well. In this sense, you must remember that it’s an organ with thousands of nerve endings and that stimulating too roughly can cause pain.

3. Believing that Everything Should be Like Porn

Unfortunately, when it comes to porn, sex isn’t shown as it really is. They aren’t real. Therefore, you shouldn’t consider them reliable sources on how sex should be.

Porn usually shows scenes and offer a picture of sex that’s aimed primarily at the male imagination and satisfaction, which is why many women don’t like porn.

Therefore, one of the most common sex mistakes is believing that the sex in porn is ideal or even normal. Therefore, you should talk to your partner to decide together if you want to try out certain scenes or positions. Only through good communication will both of you enjoy satisfactory sex.

4. Going Too Fast: One of the Most Common Sex Mistakes Men Make

A couple kissing in bed.

Foreplay helps women lubricate and stimulates both partners.

Of the most common sex mistakes men make, this is probably the best known. Indeed, many men believe that the goal of sex is penetration and orgasm.

However, for a sexual relationship to be completely satisfying, foreplay such as massage, stroking, kissing, and embracing are as important as orgasm itself.

For this reason, don’t rush. Instead, dedicate some time an effort to foreplay. In addition, keep an open mind and you’ll begin to notice that these activities can provide just as much – if not more – pleasure than the act of penetration itself.

We recommend that you read: Sensory Stimulation: Senses That Give Us Sexual Pleasure

5. Not Paying Enough Attention to the Time After Sex

Just like foreplay, the moments after sex are also very important. Being cold, disconnected or distant after sex can have negative effects and influence a woman’s level of satisfaction.

Therefore, it’s important for the couple to maintain the mood and continue hugging, caressing, and kissing each other after orgasm. This means that affection -and overall mood – must continue.

6. Asking: “Did You Come?”

A woman having an orgasm.

Although orgasm is an important part of a relationship, it’s not the only one.

For women, having an orgasm is different. But regardless of this, sex is more than just orgasm and offers other equally satisfying pleasures. In fact, a sexual relationship lacking orgasm isn’t a failed sexual relationship.

Therefore, asking “Did you come?” can make the woman uncomfortable, meaning she might lie to make her partner feel good. Also, a man who asks this question shows his insecurities.

We recommend that you read: How to Help Her Get that Orgasm

7. Prolonging Intercourse Thinking that “Longer is Better”

Prolonging intercourse is another huge sex mistake. Sex is not about quantity but quality. In fact, according to a study, healthy intercourse should last between 7 to 13 minutes.

On the other hand, it may be too short if it lasts less than two minutes and too long if it lasts between 15 to 30 minutes.

In any case, intercourse should last how long the couple wants it to. They should both feel satisfied and enjoy it, however long it lasts.

Now you know seven of the common sex mistakes men make. Believe it or not, these are extremely common and – if you’re a man – odds are you’ve been making them. However, it’s not your fault, and the key is learning to change them.

The most important thing to remember is that each person is unique, with their own preferences and needs. Therefore, only good communication will ensure that your partner knows what you like and makes you feel good.