How to Help Improve Your Partner’s Erection

Did you know that a healthy lifestyle can be an important factor in having a good sex life? As well as improving blood circulation, it may also also boost a man’s erection.
How to Help Improve Your Partner’s Erection

Last update: 11 February, 2021

Nowadays, there are different alternatives in order to enhance your partner’s erection. In fact, several types of drugs have been developed for this purpose. However, before resorting to this option, there are a number of strategies that can work.

Erectile dysfunction is more common than you might think. Although it’s often related to physiological changes in older men, it can affect men at any age.

It’s very common for young men who suffer from this problem to feel very embarrassed about it. At the same time, their partners often don’t know what to do to help them. For this reason, it’s really important to know more about the problem and how you might be able to solve it as a couple.

What’s erectile dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction, also known as impotence, is a man’s inability to achieve or maintain an erection when having sex.

It doesn’t allow them to have satisfactory sexual encounters and can also cause low self-esteem and depression. In addition, according to the Mayo Clinic, it may be a sign of some undiagnosed disease.

A man sulking because he can't get an erection.

Symptoms of erectile dysfunction

The symptoms that a man with erectile dysfunction can experience include:

  • The erection is weak or less firm
  • Maintaining an erection requires a great effort
  • Reaching climax in a much shorter time than usual or without a full erection
  • Difficulty in achieving or maintaining an erection during sex
  • Taking longer than usual to achieve an erection or having difficulties in certain positions

Causes of erectile dysfunction

There are many factors that can contribute to erectile dysfunction. It’s important to go to a specialist to determine whether the problem is a physical one or caused by another health problem.

Once you’ve discarded this, it’s a good idea to see if there are any psychological reasons for the situation. Although many people overlook it, stress, nerves, or something about their partner’s behavior during sex can be a trigger for this problem.

How to help your partner improve their erection

If your partner has erectile dysfunction and you want to help them, the first thing to do is to make sure they understand that the situation is completely normal and that it can happen to anyone.

You mustn’t have an insensitive attitude nor pity yourself or feel sad. Although you might think that you don’t excite him enough, it’s a normal physiological problem that you can both solve. So, let’s see how.

Seek professional help

As we’ve mentioned, erectile dysfunction has organic causes that are often ignored. Therefore, first of all, it’s best to see a doctor for a more accurate diagnosis.

In addition, according to a publication in Current Sexual Health Reports, referral for psychological intervention with or without medical therapy should be considered, since in all cases there’s a psychogenic component.

Improve communication

Good communication with your partner may help solve this problem. If you both have enough trust to talk openly about the subject, then you’re sure to find a solution a lot easier.

This way, it’ll be possible to talk about your frustrations, things you don’t like, and all of your emotions, which one way or another, affect your level of excitement.

Stimulate the erogenous zones

 

A woman about to relieve a man's erection.

Good stimulation of the erogenous zones is one of the most important basics for a good erection and having more enjoyable sex.

Research published in Archives of Sexual Behavior determined that “tactile stimulation of virtually all body regions can trigger sexual arousal.”

Kissing, stroking, and oral sex before sex is a great help in achieving and prolonging an erection. However, you should keep in mind a few tips:

  • If your partner can’t achieve an erection or he loses it during sex, try some sex games to try and stimulate him more
  • Before giving up, try to reassure him, and if he wants to stop the sexual act, understand him and don’t pressure him or get angry
  • Rub his genitals and, if it’s possible, try out some erotic oils for some different sensations

Encourage a healthy lifestyle to get a better erection

Although it’s something we often overlook, having a healthy lifestyle can considerably help prevent and treat erectile dysfunction.

Couples that exercise and eat well have more enjoyable and durable sex. A sedentary lifestyle, smoking, and unhealthy eating all affect blood circulation and therefore affect the ability to achieve an erection.

A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine determined that weekly exercise of 160 minutes during 6 months contributes to reducing erectile problems in men, especially when this is caused by obesity, hypertension, metabolic syndrome, or cardiovascular diseases.

A couple exercising to improve the erection.

Considering the above, the recommendations are as follows:

  • Exercise as a couple
  • Practice relaxation techniques as a couple
  • Start eating healthier
  • Include a massage during intercourse to promote relaxation and release stress

Consult a specialist if your partner can’t get an erection

If erectile dysfunction persists or begins to affect your relationship, it’s best to go to a specialist. The support of a partner during the process is crucial for overcoming this obstacle.

You can also go to a psychologist to treat all those mental aspects that may be causing erectile dysfunction.

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