Forgive your parents for any lack of affection they gave you, for any poor experience you had, for all the pain and mistreatment you may have known.
We know that you’re suffering from the consequences of the actions you now judge. We understand that they hurt you and are causing you to hold a grudge against your parents.
If you think about it, however, they did the best they could. If you had shared their experiences and situations, you might have wound up doing the same things.
Forgive your parents, because they did the best they couldForgive your parents because no one taught them how to fulfill that important role they decided to take on.
We know the phrase that has run through your mind on many occasions: “It would be better if they never had me!”
This is unfair, however, and something that your parents don’t deserve to hear.
Put yourself in their place and ask how you would feel if your child told you that.
Forgiving your parents will also help you forgive yourself when you find yourself making similar mistakes, or even totally different ones.
No one is free from making mistakes, especially when they have the responsibility of raising another human being.
Forgive your parents because whether you believe it or not, their mistakes have had a positive outcome.
Do you know what it is? It’s the fact that you, now that you are aware of them, can take a different path because you know better.
If the resentment continues to dwell in your heart, however, you’ll wind up doing the same things even without realizing it, and possibly worse.
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Release yourself of this burdenSometimes, anger about a disastrous childhood caused by parents who weren’t able to raise you better can cause you to carry a burden of resentment for years.
You might not know why, but you can’t find true happiness. There may be something that you don’t want to see or to heal.
Your pride can sometimes prevent you from taking that first step of forgiveness, and you wait for them to come apologizing to you.
Why make your suffering last any longer than it has to?
It’s your own happiness that’s at stake. It’s your responsibility to choose the path you want to follow. You’re no longer a little kid at the mercy of your parents.
Now, you’re an adult who has to take the first step, without waiting for someone else to do so. That doesn’t mean groveling or humbling yourself.
This is one of the best decisions you can make because it will free you from that heavy load that coats your world in a thick darkness.
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Everything you can learn
Even if your parents didn’t learn from all the pain that they caused you, there is someone who understood it – and that’s you!
The damage that was done can make you feel deeply hurt, but be confident that there was something good about it all.
After all, it’s you who decides whether to turn everything around or keep carrying that load that will direct you to take the same steps you believe are harmful.
If everything in life were perfect, we would never learn.
It’s curious that we often learn from the most negative experiences. They help us grow, mature, and become better people.
Once you were a small child who didn’t have the power to change things, but now you’re an adult who is capable of changing their course.
You can decide whether to forgive your parents and release that awful anchorage to a distant past, or to live your life with resentment and hatred toward two people who didn’t know better.
What will you decide?