The Trap of Manipulative Praise
Manipulation praise is much more common than you think. After all, everyone likes to receive praise from others. However, it’s not worth that moment of reward if you’re going to be hurt even more down the line.
Manipulative praise is not just a simple compliment. In reality, there’s a camouflaged interest behind each piece of praise or positive comment.
Everyone loves to be told how good they are and how well they do things.
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However, there are times when you can get carried away by this flattery without realizing that you need to open your eyes and recognize the real intention.
Sometimes, people who have low self-esteem need this type of flattery. They see themselves based on their merits because they live off of the approval of others.
This is a dangerous situation, and you can fall into a harmful trap.
Beware of manipulative praise
You’ve probably noticed that on more than one occasion you’ve let yourself get carried away by someone’s beautiful words only to find that they’re telling you what to do based on what they want.
Here are some examples of real situations of manipulative praise.
1. “What a nice person you are! Hey, so I wanted to ask you…”
This is very common. Following a compliment comes a request that you can hardly turn down. When they send a positive word your way, you’ll look bad if you deny what they ask you for.
When they tell you “you’re so nice” and then you refuse to do what they ask of you, you might think you’re disappointing them.
However, this is precisely their intention. Without you being aware of it, a feeling of guilt will take hold and you’ll feel compelled to do what the other person wants.
2. “You’re so perceptive – aren’t I right about…?”Sometimes, the manipulative praise trap occurs because a person wants you to support a particular opinion they have about the situation.
For example, if they’re criticizing a friend, they’ll offer you some flattery before asking you what you think.
After that, you might find it hard to refuse to take part in the judgment, even if you recognize that it’s wrong. After all, you don’t want to disappoint someone.
Again, subtle manipulation is present here.
3. “I’m sorry, you’re so kind.”
To do this, they tell you sweet things so that you feel superior to them and forgive them. After all, we’re only human…
However, you need to keep your eyes wide open, because in most cases these people are not trying to recover your relationship, but rather the benefits that it brings to them.
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4. “I love that I’m able to confide in you.”This is typically done by people who use you to achieve a specific purpose that only benefits themselves. They need you to get where they want to go, but once they reach their goal, they’ll step over you and leave you behind.
Be very careful with this type of manipulation. After all, it can shatter you into pieces and leave your heart with wounds that are difficult to heal.
Manipulative praise is hard to see
In some cases, only experience can provide you with the tools you need to be able to open your eyes and not let the empty words fool you.
When someone flatters you and you’re feeling down about yourself, be alert! Don’t get carried away by that good feeling you get when you think someone finally recognizes your merits.
Manipulation adoration is much more common than you think. After all, everyone likes to receive praise from others.
Of course, it’s not worth that moment of reward if you’re going to be hurt even more down the line.