How to Deal with Criticism

· April 9, 2017
Can you handle criticism? It's never too late to learn to face criticism so it becomes your ally instead of your enemy.

Criticism provokes feelings like anger, irritation, and sadness. Although many people can take criticism, it’s very tough for others.

It’s never too late to learn to face criticism so that it becomes our ally instead of our enemy.

Therefore, today we’ll give you some keys tips on how to accept what you feel when others give you their opinion and how to redirect your emotions in a positive way.

We need criticism

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Even if we tend to reject everything that makes us feel bad, the truth is that negative things are very necessary.

This is because they give us approval and allow us to mature and learn, which is always necessary.

When criticism makes an appearance in our lives, it’s important to accept that our first reaction will be to feel angry, annoyed, confused or uncomfortable.

You’ll experience a myriad of emotions that will take control of you but you must be prepared to make a decision when dealing with them.

When these feelings appear, it’s time to choose between three paths.

  • The first path, which many people always tell us to take, is to ignore the criticism. In other words, we ignore what we hear, turn our backs on the person or people and continue with our life. This choice has its consequences. We could miss out on learning a lot because turning our back on what we don’t like isn’t always a good decision.
  • The second path which we constantly go through is feeling sad and depressed.
  • The third is the most recommended path to take. It involves taking criticism in a positive way.

But how can you do this?

1. Keep an open mind

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Criticism doesn’t define you. It’s simply pointing out something that you do or think. That’s why it’s important to keep an open mind once the feelings of anger or sadness pass.

Critiques don’t discredit you. this is exactly the same as thinking that mistakes make you fail (they definitely don’t)!

Then, you should think about how you may have misunderstood these opinions that make you uncomfortable. Realize that, in reality, they are able to reveal some truth.

Therefore, the attitude you should adopt is to communicate with the person who has given you the criticism.

That way, you’ll see things from a new point of view that will uplift you and be of great help in similar future situations.

2. What was the critic’s intention?

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Keeping an open mind doesn’t mean that you should take everything literally or believe what the other person says is true.

You shouldn’t do any of that. You have to discover their true intentions when they gave you negative feedback.

Sometimes, criticism is just meant to annoy you. Maybe the other person hasn’t had a good day and is taking it out on you or maybe they’re jealous of what you’ve achieved.

Other times, the criticism is intended to try to help you, and there is no malice behind the critic’s intentions.

Because of all this, it’s important to discover the true intention of the critic. This helps you avoid any misunderstandings.

3. Determine whether or not to make decisions based to criticism

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Have you found out that the criticism you received from someone was intended to help you? Then it’s time to decide whether or not to make changes in your life.

Sometimes, you’ll realize that you can grow and mature by adopting a few simple changes in your habits, which will allow you to become a better person.

However, other times following the advice of a critic won’t do you any good.

Only you determine whether it’s relevant to change based on an opinion or not.

Just don’t waste your time spend all night thinking about it if it’s not going to get you anywhere.

How do you react to criticism? Do you know how to handle it well or does it get the best of you? Sometimes we get defensive because criticism damages our ego and we feel we have to stop it. However, adopting a different attitude can enrich us and help us a lot in terms of personal growth.

 

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