Chronic Victimization: People who Constantly Complain

October 5, 2018
Chronic victimization creates a distorted view of reality, and the affected person will always manage to find a culprit for anything that happens to them

At some point or another, everyone has played the role of the victim. However, what happens when it becomes a part of your personality? What happens if you complain constantly? You then become someone who suffers from chronic victimization.

Chronic victimization and pessimism

A person who sees himself as the victim will be unhappy and pessimistic. Everything will be black. As a result, they’ll believe that only bad things happen to them, and that bad luck follows them everywhere they go.

The problem is that it’s not real at all. Someone with a victim mentality has a distorted view of reality.

Lady with head in a cloud

The person who complains about everything and everyone on a regular basis actually sees life in a distorted way. Their pessimistic attitude and the belief that everything negative will happen to them is what causes this view.

Everyone has been through hard times, and by now you might be wondering if you too have a victim mentality. However, chronic victimization is something that is constructed over time; it’s an attitude towards life.

However, simply going through a dark or sorrow-filled period doesn’t make you someone with a victim mentality.

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Pessimistic people and people with a victim mentality feed on negative feelings and emotions. What’s worse is that they don’t just blame others for their misfortunes, they take on attitudes of contempt, aggression, intolerance, and even violence.

The characteristics of chronic victimization

If you’re still not sure if you yourself have this chronic condition, or if someone around you is suffering from this disorder, then you can consider some of the characteristics that best describe this personality type.

A distorted view of reality

People with chronic victimization believe that everything happening to them is because of someone else. Thanks to this, they’re never responsible for their own actions and instead heap all the blame on others.

The problem is that a distorted view of reality will only make them feel more miserable because they believe they don’t have the power to change their situation.

Woman crying

They feed off of complaints

Complaints and laments are the fuel for everyone with a victim mentality. Consequently, with each complaint, they get the attention of others and become the center of attention, which makes them feel important.

The worst thing is that they never ask for help or attempt to remove themselves from a situation they don’t like. Their modus operandi is simply to complain.

Objective: assign the blame

All victims are looking for a guilty party they can assign the blame to for problems they don’t want to be responsible for. Subsequently, they think that other people are motivated by their own interests, simply using the people around them. They don’t realize that they are fabricating this lie, and in fact, they enjoy it.

A lack of self-criticism

At this point it should be clear that chronic victimization makes you incapable of having a good perspective of yourself. You’re unable to comprehend that there is anything good about you, or that you could possibly improve in any way.

Bad things and negative energy are created by others—it’s out of your control. You’re just the victim of something that you can’t stop.

Manipulation and emotional blackmail

These victims are experts at handling situations and people to achieve their interests. They know that playing the victim will turn the tide in their favor.

Because of this, it’s important to be aware that a pessimistic person will use emotional blackmail to make them seem even more like a victim in any given situation. They revel in their bad attitude, feeding off their sorrow and blaming others in order to feel important.

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Female real puppet

You have to learn how to deal with this type of person and neutralize their effect so that they don’t infect you with negative emotions. A person with a victim mentality is a toxic person who will poison you, whether you believe it or not.

If you have the opportunity to remove these types of people from your life then do it! You don’t deserve to have anyone ruin your happiness with their complaints and criticism. These are just the result of their own distorted reality in their attempt to become a martyr.