At some point or another in life everyone has played the role of the victim. But what happens when it becomes a part of your personality? What happens if you complain constantly?
You become the person who suffers from chronic victimization.
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Chronic victimization and pessimism
A person who sees themself as the victim will be unhappy and pessimistic. Everything will be dark, they’ll believe that only bad things happen to them, and that bad luck follows them everywhere they go.
The problem is that it’s not real at all: a chronic victim has a distorted view of reality.
The person who complains about everything and everyone on a regular basis actually sees life in a distorted way. Their pessimistic attitude and the belief that everything negative will happen to them is what causes this view.
Everyone has been through hard times, and by now you might be wondering if you too are a chronic victim. Chronic victimization is something that is constructed over time; it’s an attitude toward life.
When you go through a dark or sorrow-filled period, it doesn’t make you a chronic victim.
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Pessimistic people and chronic victims feed on negative feelings and emotions. What’s worse is that they don’t just blame others for their misfortunes, they take on attitudes of contempt, aggression, intolerance, and even violence.
The characteristics of chronic victimization
If you’re still not sure if you yourself are a chronic victim, or if someone around you is suffering from this disorder, let’s look at some of the characteristics that best describe this personality type.
A distorted view of reality
People with chronic victimization believe that everything happening to them is because of someone else. Thanks to this, they’re never responsible for their own actions and instead heap all the blame on others.
The problem is that a distorted view of reality will only make them feel more miserable because they believe they don’t have the power to change their situation.
They feed off of complaints
Complaints and laments are the fuel for a chronic victim. With each complaint they manage to obtain the attention of others and become the center of attention, which makes them feel important.
The worst is that they never ask for help or attempt to remove themselves from a situation they don’t like. Their modus operandi is simply to complain.
Objective: find blame
All victims are looking for the guilty party upon which to assign blame to the problems they don’t want to be responsible for. They think that other people are motivated by their own interests, simply using the people around them.
They don’t realize that they are fabricating this lie, and in fact, they enjoy it.
A lack of self-criticism
At this point it should be clear that chronic victimization makes you unable to have a good perspective of yourself. You’re unable to comprehend that there is anything reprehensible about you, or that you could improve upon anything.
Bad things, negative energy, is created by others—it’s out of your control. You are just the victim of something that you can’t stop.
Manipulation and emotional blackmail
A chronic victim is an expert at handling situations and people to achieve their interests. They know that playing the victim will turn the tide in their favor.
Because of this, it’s important to be aware that a pessimistic person will use emotional blackmail to make them seem even more like a victim in any situation. They revel in their bad attitude, feeding off of their sorrow and blaming others to feel important.
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You have to learn to deal with this type of person and neutralize their effect so that they don’t infect you with negative emotions. A chronic victim is a toxic person who will poison you, whether you believe they will or not.
If you have the opportunity to remove a chronic victim from you life, do it!
You don’t deserve to have anyone tear down your happiness with their complaints and criticism, which are the result of their own distorted reality in their attempt to become a martyr.