7 Characteristics of Mentally Strong People

03 December, 2018
Think about the fact that a lot of times, it's not that life is unfair or that you simply have bad people around you. Sometimes the change has to come from within yourself.

Mentally strong people know themselves so well that they don’t let others changes them. They’re also the ones that are able to act intelligently when facing adversity.

Not everyone is ready to take responsibility in their life. However, people who are mentally strong are resistant to the many stimuli that push them down roads they don’t want to go.

The Characteristics of Mentally Strong People 

You yourself might be a mentally strong person, or you might want to be.

That’s why today we are going to delve into the 7 characteristics of mentally strong people. You might identify with some of these.


It doesn’t matter what stage of life you’re in, or if you have relatively little, or lots, of experience. What truly matters here is the desire to be a better person and to stop letting circumstance or people around you influence you in a negative fashion.

1. They know how to say “no”

The word “no” has a lot of negative connotations, and a lot of people have such a hard time saying no to favors or requests that people make of you. This makes people feel bad about themselves, which pushes you to consent to doing something that you don’t want to do.

It’s important that you learn to say “no”, even though it’s hard. Refusing to do something does not turn you into a bad person. We all have the right to say no to doing something we don’t want to do.

2. The recognize that failure is the path to success

Mentally strong people know that in order to walk, you first must fall, stumble, and crawl. Then, through great effort, sweat and tears… you learn to run.

That’s why you shouldn’t deny your mistakes, or how you stumble or fall. Know that all of this will lead you to success.

They also know how to recognize their weaknesses, and are able to see everything in them that could be positive. They are aware of the fact that if they don’t make mistakes, they’ll never know where failure is, and how to improve.

Each failure is an opportunity.


3. They know that their happiness depends on them alone

A lot of people leave their happiness in the hands of others. Having a partner sometimes leads us to believe that the other person will make you happy.

As a result, this will cause you to never be happy alone, because you’ll always leave this big responsibility in the hands of others.

People that are mentally strong know that an individual must be happy by him/herself, and you should never give the reigns of your happiness to others. That never ends well.


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4. They’re not afraid of fear

There are a lot of things we’re afraid of.

We’re afraid of failure, abandonment, being alone, embarrassment, rejection… Fears that are never overcome because we don’t have enough courage to face them.

If you are mentally strong, you know that the only way to overcome fear is to face it, look it in the eyes and overcome it. Ignoring it does no good.

Every fear will continue to be there if you don’t look it square in the face.

5. They’re emotionally intelligent


People who are emotionally intelligent don’t agree just to agree, because they know how to correctly externalize their emotions. It’s normal for people to now know how to identify their emotions, and therefore, not know how to externalize them.

This doesn’t happen to mentally strong people. They recognize that they understand their emotions and know how to show them, not hide them.

This makes them very empathetic people. They are highly capable of observing and understanding feelings and emotions in others.

6. They neutralize toxic people

Toxic people surround us all, feeding on the weakest to suck out their energy. But if you are emotionally strong, you know how to neutralize them, even though they are all around.

Sometimes you simply can’t get away from toxic people, but you can prevent their toxicity from affecting you. So getting to know yourself, trusting in yourself, learning to say “no” and knowing how to face your fears will turn you into a fairly difficult hurdle for toxic people.


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7. Their changes are positive

We all have a deeply ingrained fear of change that causes many of us to stay in our comfort zone. However, this is where you can get stuck.


Mentally strong people know that changes are always positive. In spite of how afraid they are, they know the hardest part is always taking the first step. Everything else will eventually fall into place.

What about you?

Are you a mentally strong person?  Would you like to be?  These characteristics are only a few that you can think on, to start to change your life today.

If your mind is strong, you are as well. This will make things go much better for you.

Think about the fact that a lot of times, it’s not that life is unfair or that you simply have bad people around you. Sometimes the change has to come from within yourself.

Seeing life in a different way and preventing certain things can make a big difference.

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  • Morin, A., & Morin, A. (2015). 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. Harper Audio.