Overcome Your Pride and Ask for Forgiveness

December 21, 2018
To overcome your pride, you have to gradually start practicing certain behaviors that will allow you to release those fears you hide behind your armor

Overcoming your pride can be very difficult sometimes because you might think it means losing your dignity and subjugating yourself. Far from that, however, it actually strengthens your relationships. Relationships, whether it’s a partner, family, work, or a friendship, require a lot of honesty to recognize when you have made a mistake. That’s when you should ask for forgiveness, overcome your pride, and show what true repentance is.

See: 5 steps to change prideful ways

Plenty of people can ask for forgiveness without really meaning it. In the end, they’re not actually learning from their mistakes. This is not the way to overcome your pride and truly apologize.

To overcome your pride, accept that you’re not perfect

Overcome Your Pride
To overcome your pride and ask for forgiveness, you have to first understand that you’re not perfect. Sometimes this can be hard to admit, thanks to your ego.

It’s a mature thing to recognize, however.

Everyone has an image of themselves that’s a little blurred, based on reality. This could be because society urges us to be perfect, when that’s actually impossible.

Recognizing that you are wrong, that you make mistakes, and that you can apologize for them will help keep you grounded. Having a more realistic and less idealized image of yourself will improve your relationships.

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Overcoming your pride when dealing with others can help you in other aspects of your life. You’ll have a much higher tolerance for mistakes at work, for example, as well as the criticism of others.

Have you ever been upset when someone pointed out something that you didn’t do well? It’s time to start accepting everything that you can learn about one aspect of your life and apply it to the others.

Become an observer

Become an observer
Certain techniques, such as mindfulness, urge you to become an observer. This is done without judgment, of course. The problem is that this is a deeply rooted habit and it’s difficult to get rid of.

Observing your emotions when you ask for forgiveness can help you gain an understanding of why it’s difficult to overcome your pride. Perhaps you need to look toward your past.

What experiences have hurt you and caused you to feel like your dignity was injured as well? Although it might hurt to retrieve these from your memories, it’s important to do so. This will be key to understanding what’s happening to you now.

It’s also important that you observe your environment around you, in addition to yourself. Especially focus on the people you should apologize to.

Observing how others feel and how they react to you can help improve your empathy and allow you to remember a time when you felt like you were in their place.

Would you have wanted someone to ask you for forgiveness? Did someone take the opportunity to overcome their pride? The more you consider this, the more you will empathize and realize what you should do.

Don’t forget that pride makes you feel superior to other people, and that’s simply not the case.

If it’s difficult, practice it

If it’s difficult, practice it
If it’s hard for you to ask for forgiveness and overcome your pride, it’s time to start practicing it. It’s normal to start to feel anxious about it, causing you to never take the first step.

For that reason, just like when you prepare for a test or a presentation, make a short script and practice it. Think about the words and phrases that would make you feel more comfortable.

The more familiar you get with these things, the less difficult it will be to actually put them into practice. Remember that you must do it, even if it’s hard!

Youse your time and concern to choose phrases and words that make you feel comfortable while still having meaning.

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Overcome your fears. Overcome the pride that’s preventing you from taking that next step, overcome the circumstances and your unconscious worry that the past will be repeated.

Pride can be a means of protecting ourselves, but don’t forget that relationships are at stake. Treating the people around you with kindness is part of being happy.

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