Mirroring: The Language of Seduction

24 March, 2021
Do you know what mirroring is and how it can help you connect with the people you care about? Find out all about this technique in today's article!

Mirroring has been around since the beginning of humanity. After all, we’ve always found ways to communicate beyond words. This kind of language is within the scope of seduction and is a field yet to be explored in-depth.

Biological inheritance is part of each person, so it’s fundamental to understand certain behaviors or processes. The body has its own method of communication and it’s important to learn how to decipher it.

Continue reading for an analysis of the messages the human body transmits!

Mirroring: When the body talks

The body has quite a communicative capacity. In fact, people around you will probably be able to identify any discomfort from your body posture or your expression, for example.

This isn’t only an instinctive survival tool that helped us much in ancient times when a strange sound made us stop and look around. The brain also makes it easier for others to perceive behavioral signals.

This explains why you can bond almost immediately and maintain a good relationship with some people, while it’s just the opposite with others.

It isn’t difficult to tell that someone is uncomfortable during a conversation. You can even sense if someone is just listening out of politeness and has zero interest in the conversation.

Two women talking.

How mirroring can help you win someone over

Indeed, how can you use all this information to your advantage and get the attention of the person you like?

Mirroring is the key! This technique consists of empathizing with the other person and creating harmony through gestures and body expressions.

For example, imitating their posture allows you to establish greater proximity and complicity. This is usually done unconsciously and naturally since it’s a typical physical reaction in social situations. However, you can also use it as a tool in the art of seduction.

The explanation for this mechanism lies in the mirror neurons, which are involved in imitative, empathic, and social behaviors.

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A weapon for seduction

This trait can help attract a potential partner or check if you’ve bonded with that special person. Actually, just watch people who just began a relationship, they surely touch each other and are close to each other most of the time. They probably even adopt similar postures.

Two people talking.

Here are some mirroring recommendations for more effective flirting:

  • Maintain an upright position, looking straight ahead and avoiding shrugging your shoulders, not only to adopt a better posture but also to convey confidence.
  • Your hands should always be out of your pockets, not hidden, as this indicates insecurity, according to a study conducted by a team from Columbia University.
  • Look at the other person when you’re talking and when they’re talking to you (those who avoid looking are generally shy but they can correct it).
  • You may lean a little bit towards your interlocutor to express interest, but don’t touch them or invade their personal space.

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How to tell if someone likes you

According to the art of mirroring, a person might like you if they look straight at you, their pupils dilate a little when they do, and they lean forward. However, a person isn’t attracted to you if they’re constantly looking at their clock or if their body posture denotes distance.

Keep in mind that these are approximate statements and every person is different, and so is their way of communicating. Maybe, just like you, the other person is modifying their body posture on purpose. Mainly, to purposely make you think they’re not into you because they’re nervous around the person they like.

Taking mirroring into account is important because it allows you to establish real assessments about what the other person might feel and not express verbally. This will allow you to communicate better with others.

  • VV.AA.NONVERBAL BEHAVIOR AND NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION: WHAT DO CONVERSATIONAL HAND GESTURES TELL US?. http://www.columbia.edu/~rmk7/PDF/Adv.pdf