5 Ways to Stop Expecting Too Much of Others

Expecting too much from others only leads to disappointment. Don't allow your happiness to depend on other people, it's your responsibility alone.

Expecting too much from other people instead of making yourself happy leads to the exact opposite. We can’t allow ourselves to expect too much from others because we don’t know if they’ll be the same person tomorrow, and that could lead to getting hurt.

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We live our lives surrounded by expectations, many of them unreal. When you’ve suffered enough disappointments, you realize that it’s time to change the way you look at others and stop expecting too much from them.

Expecting too much from others leads to disappointment

Waiting for things that will never come or happen leads to disappointment. You may not have to expect anything from anyone because you know their behavior is out of your control. But do you know who you should have expectations of? Yourself.


Today, we’d like to invite you to learn about 4 ways that can help you in your transition as you start letting go of your expectations. It will set you free and will allow you to drop your unrealistic expectations. It’s time to stop expecting and start living.

1. Learn to distinguish expectations from dependency

You may not be aware of this fact, but you’ve blamed other people for your own unhappiness on many occasions. How you act influences your emotional state. You’re dependent on others because you’ve made them responsible for a part of you that only you alone can be.

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Happiness is impossible if you continually depend on other people in order to feel good. Learning to lighten up and letting go of your expectations will allow you to see that happiness is in your own hands and only you are responsible for it.

2. Accept that you won’t always receive back what you give

We’ve all heard that if we give something that we shouldn’t expect anything in return. However, on the inside, we all want to get something back in some way. In this instance, we’re expecting others to reciprocate our actions.


This only serves to put us in a situation where our expectations come first. Accept other people as they are, not everyone will be able to live up to your expectations. Don’t get upset. You should be happy with what you were willing to share, without any expectation of reciprocity.

3. Never idealize people or situations

Expectations are charged with ideal situations. For example, in romantic relationships, we may view our partner as our ideal mate, perfect and without flaws. This illusion changes over time, leading to huge disappointments.

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Idealizing a circumstance or person blocks you from seeing that people change and not often in the best way. This will hurt, it will sting and you won’t realize that you’re responsible. We cannot control anything or anyone. When we idealize, we believe in a dream that can never become reality.

4. We all have flaws, no one is perfect

Maybe you’ve never been on the other side of the table and you’ve never disappointed anyone before.  Or maybe someone was expecting a lot from you, but you didn’t meet their expectations, causing a huge disappointment.


No one is perfect, so we need to accept ourselves as we are. What if we all started to accept instead of expect something that may never come. This way, if someone does you wrong, you’ll be able to accept it because you didn’t have any expectations. Instead, if you carry yourself well, you’ll be in for a pleasant surprise.

Expecting too much from others is never a good thing. If you’re tired of being disappointed, of other people changing their mind from one moment to the next, people being selfish, then stop expecting so much from them.

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The only person you should set expectations for is yourself. Accept others, never let yourself depend on others to be happy. Set yourself free from limiting attitudes that keep you from following your dreams. Quit expecting and start living your life authentically.

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