Sleeping Positions for You and Your Partner

October 10, 2018
When bedtime rolls around, whether you're alone or with your partner, it's important that you choose comfortable sleeping positions so that you postural health isn't affected.

While sleeping with your partner strengthens your relationship, it’s also true that sharing a bed can often end up twisting you into odd sleeping positions, including some that could be harmful to your health. That’s why you should consider the following healthy and comfortable sleeping positions for you and your partner. 

The key is to be comfortable and to avoid those intricate positions that are hurting you. All of these positions will help you get a good night’s rest, so you and your partner can enjoy a deeper sense of bonding. Don’t be afraid to experiment with them and find which one is more compatible with you and your partner’s sleeping habits.

1. Side by side

Couple sleeping side by side

If you two like to sleep side by side, try sleeping back to back. This will prevent your body from going numb, and you won’t fall into any uncomfortable positions. This is definitely a good option for the both of you to get a good rest.

If one of you likes to sleep on your side, and the other on their back, then it’s best if the person that sleeps on his/her side, rotates a bit onto their back. Then, the other person can get perfectly comfortable laying on their back, with their arms stretched out.

2. Hugging

Couple hugging in their sleep

A lot of couples like this posture, although it’s not always the most comfortable.  The problems come into play when one person likes it and the other doesn’t, especially during the summer.

If that’s your case, then you could compromise with one person sleeping practically on their belly, placing a pillow under their abdomen; this prevents placing any pressure on their back. The other person can then sleep on their side, sweeping their arm over the other.  This creates a gentle hug.

3. On your back

Couple sleeping peacefully

This posture is perfect for getting the proper rest. Neither one puts inappropriate pressure on the other person’s body.  If both of you are used to sleeping in this position, then just reach out and grab each other’s hand. This will help you feel connected to the other person even when you are not necessarily hugging.

Read also: Express Your Affection to the People You Love Every Day

4. Spooning

Couple sleeping together

This is another one of the most common positions when it comes to couples sleeping.  Spooning is preferred, in fact, by most. But is it healthy? The answer might appear to be yes, as it helps eliminate pressure on the spine. 

The best option for enjoying this posture is to do so on your side, bending your knees and placing a pillow between your legs.  This will help both of you get true quality sleep

Avoid unstable sleeping positions

Uncomfortable sleeping positions

Avoid intricate positions, like where your head rests on their arm, or your legs on their arms, and any other positions that could cause pain if sustained for a long time. If you are in pain, that is your body’s way of saying something is wrong.

Besides pain and discomfort, sleeping like this could also interrupt appropriate blood flow in certain areas because of the pressure you’re exerting. 

This is not only bad for your health, but you’re probably doing damage to both of you, without either of you confessing it. What’s supposed to bring you closer ends up being a cause for resentment in the future.

Read also: 4 Natural Ways to Stimulate Blood Flow in Your Body

A good mattress + the best sleeping positions

Woman sleeping with her boyfriend

Good posture isn’t going to help you at all if you don’t have a good mattress. Think about a model that changes according to your needs, that’s not too hard, or soft, or too worn. This also applies when it comes the time to choose a pillow, so pay attention to this as well.

Keep in mind that there are times to show your partner your love, and other times just to sleep. This needs to be reflected in whichever decision you make about the healthiest posture in which to sleep. So, avoid choosing uncomfortable sleeping positions. As romantic as it may seem, your back probably won’t like it.

Find balance in positions that you both like, and most especially, that respect your personal space. Remember that when you’re sleeping, you should be resting, and there are lots of ways you can show your affection without having to compromise your health.

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