If you won’t cry, your body will cry for you. If you force yourself to keep it all in, hold all your struggles in and not let them out, you’ll end up exploding.
We weren’t designed to fill ourselves with feelings and harbor emotions without expressing them.
The fear of how everyone will react, what they’ll say about you or if they’ll reject you makes you keep things inside that, sooner or later, will spill out by themselves.
If you don’t cry, you will start to suffer
If you won’t cry, get to experience even more sadness, despair, depression, and angst.
You have every opportunity for things to not be like that. Keeping it all in isn’t the path you want to choose.
Here’s an example. Say your partner always rests his feet on the table. You’ve never said anything to him about it because you wanted to believe at first that it didn’t bother you.
The honeymoon stage makes us pretty stupid. What happens when this phase is over? Reality hits, and what you pretended didn’t bother you before now really irritates you.
You probably will start blaming the other person. You might let out an occasional,”You know I don’t like that, “ or let him know with your look that you aren’t pleased.
But this won’t do anything for you. You’ll put up with it again and again. You’ll keep giving those looks, until one day you explode over nothing.
The big mistake here is pretending like something is not bothering you when it really is, and not communicating it in time. Maybe you believe that it won’t happen again.
However, you’re entering into one of the worst mistakes: the world of expectations.
Your body tells you when it’s not OK
If keeping all your feelings in has become your way of life, your body will start to send you warning signs.
Recurring headaches, anxiety, an upset stomach, eczema, or any of a multitude of problems could be a cry for help coming from something inside telling you something is not OK.
You shouldn’t ignore it.
Maybe you don’t know what’s happening because it’s coming from a past experience that you don’t even remember very well.
But if it’s limiting your life, if you get anxiety or if you’re frequently not well and you don’t feel happy, listen to your body.
It is wise. Use it to figure out the core of the issue. Your body isn’t reacting like this for no reason.
Your body and mind are connected. If you ignore the problem, you won’t address the issue and your body will show it.
It goes even further. If you don’t dive into the innermost parts of you and face what is doing you so much damage, that upset stomach may turn into eczema, eczema into a circulation problem, and the circulation problem into dermatitis.
As you ignore your body’s warnings, it’ll keep trying to show you something’s wrong until you put an end to whatever is making you so unhappy.
Beliefs, trauma, and experiences
Your problems often come from beliefs, traumas, and experiences that you didn’t choose to put into your mind or go through.
However , they can all actually be opportunities to open your eyes, learn, and let go.
That fear of saying “no” may come from a belief or a traumatic experience that you’ve been carrying around since you were little.
That giant fear of saying what you feel when you feel it may be due to a negative experience that triggered low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence.
Don’t give in to all of this. There’s no reason to lay down and take it.
Every trauma and experience is a chance to turn into who you really want to be.
Before you go, read: A Mind that Knows How to Be Grateful Knows Inner Peace
So remember this: if you won’t cry, your body will. Start to let yourself cry when you need to. Free your body from the physical manifestations of pain.
Are you ready to choose well-being over misery?
Illustrations: Sylvie Ann