How Crying Is Good for You

You may have heard that crying is a sign of weakness but the truth is that it's liberating. If you don't cry, your feelings may overflow and keep you from being happy. Find out why crying is good for you.
How Crying Is Good for You

Last update: 08 October, 2018

Crying is good for you. If you don’t cry, your body will suffer the consequences. If you keep it all in and hold in all your problems, you could end up exploding. We weren’t designed to harbor emotions without expressing them.

Still, the fear of how others will react, their comments, or their possible rejection makes us keep things inside. However, sooner or later, everything is bound to come out on its own. Find out why crying is good for you below.

Crying is good for you so you don’t suffer

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If you don’t cry, you’ll feel even more sadness, despair, depression, and angst.

You have every opportunity to make things better. Keeping it all in isn’t the way you want to go.

Here’s an example. Say your partner always rests his feet on the table. You’ve never said anything to them about it because you wanted to believe at first that it didn’t bother you.

The honeymoon stage makes us pretty foolish. What happens when this phase is over? Reality hits, and what you pretended didn’t bother you before now really bothers you.

You’ll probably start blaming the other person. You might let out an occasional, “You know I don’t like that,” or let them know with a look that you aren’t pleased.

But this won’t solve anything for you. You’ll put up with it again and again. You’ll keep giving those looks, until one day you blow up over nothing.

The big mistake here is pretending something isn’t bothering you when it really is, and not communicating it in time. Maybe you believe that it won’t happen again.

However, you’re making one of the worst mistakes by setting expectations.

Your body tells you when it’s not OK

Crying is good for you woman with poison tag around neck

If keeping your feelings bottle up has become your way of life, your body will start to send you warning signs.

They might manifest as recurring headaches, anxiety, an upset stomach, eczema, and many other problems. They’re a cry for help that something isn’t right.

You shouldn’t ignore them.

Maybe you don’t understand it because it’s coming from an experience that you don’t even remember.

Listen to your body if:

  • You feel your problems limit your life
  • You suffer from anxiety
  • You’re often unwell and don’t feel happy

Your body is wiser than you think; let it help you find the core of your issues. It isn’t reacting like this for no reason.

Your body and mind are connected. If you ignore the problem, it will show through your body.

It goes even further than that. Your body’s warning signs can get worse if you don’t look at the innermost parts of your mind and face what is affecting you so much. As a result, your upset stomach may turn into eczema, eczema into a circulation problem, and the circulation problem into dermatitis.

As you ignore your body’s warnings, it’ll keep trying to show you something’s wrong. Moreover, it will keep trying to tell you until you put an end to whatever is making you so unhappy.

Beliefs, trauma, and experiences

Woman holding arm with face hidden

Your problems often stem from beliefs, traumas, and experiences that you didn’t choose to experience.

However, they can all be opportunities to open your eyes, learn, and let go.

The fear of saying “no” may come from a belief or a traumatic experience you experienced as a child.

That colossal fear of expressing yourself may be due to a negative experience that triggered low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence.

Don’t give in to all of this. There’s no reason to take it lying down.

Every trauma and experience is a chance to turn into who you really want to be.

Woman lying down under moon

So remember, crying is good for you. If you won’t cry, your body will. Start letting yourself cry when you need to. Free your body from the physical manifestations of pain.

Are you ready to choose well-being over misery?

Images courtesy of Sylvie Ann

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