Regret is something that many people who have been near to death have experienced. It’s a feeling of emptiness, of wanting to go back to have taken more advantage of the time we’ve lived.
However, it seems that only when we’re close to death do we realise the value that life has.
But is it really worth waiting for this situation to arrive? Instead, we can avoid regrets before we die.
To regret things before we die is pointless
To regret things before we die is something that doesn’t help us at all. However, bearing this in mind, we’re going to discuss some of the things that most people regret.
Writing them on paper to keep them in your mind will prevent you from living on auto-pilot without paying attention to things that you may regret in the future.
Let’s have a look at what they are.
1. “I haven’t lived the life I wanted”
This is one of the most common regrets. It comes from insecurity, which prevents us from making decisions and living the life we want.
It’s often due to the quest for external approval, and to various opinions:
- “Watch out, that’s dangerous”,
- “I wouldn’t spend your money on that if I were you”,
- “Surely you’ll give up on that idea?”
- …and many insecurities that make us take a step backwards.
How many people have followed the same life pattern as their parents? How many have explored a life with more “detours”?
Which would make you happier?
We give too much importance to what others think of us and, therefore, we miss opportunities to live life as we’ve always dreamed.
2. I’ve worked too much
This is another thing that most people regret: having lived to work, instead of working in order to live.
Work can become a priority in the lives of many people who leave their family behind and also their friends.
Over time, they realise that they haven’t seen their children grow up, that their relationship with their partner has cooled due to the large amount of time they spent apart and that, because they don’t take care of their friendships, they lack proper friends.
Personal relationships are very valuable to all people. So let’s prioritise them. Work is important, but building strong relationships is much more important.
3. I should have done more fun and crazy things
Looking back and discovering how many crazy things have crossed our minds (which we didn’t do out of fear, insecurity, or excuses) leaves a bitter taste in the mouth.
Do you want to go bungee jumping? Do it! Want to travel? Grab a backpack and explore the world!
All unfulfilled wishes will be a reason for regret on our deathbed.
These wild, crazy ideas are nothing more than daring to leave our comfort zone. It’s a safe and comfortable area, but at the same time it limits us so much.
We only live once, so why not do it intensely?
4. I wish I had expressed my feelings
Since we’re little, we’re encouraged to repress our feelings. Don’t cry in public, don’t raise your voice too much, keep your composure…
All this means that, when the moment comes, we’re not able to release our emotions in the privacy of our own home.
It’s important to learn to express how we feel, understand our emotions and know how to manage them properly.
- “Why didn’t I tell her I loved her?”
- “I wish I had shed all the tears that would have freed me”
Don’t wait until the end to do all this.
Now that you know what people usually regret before we die, it’s time to change your way of life. Only then can you close your eyes with a smile on your face, satisfied with how you’ve lived throughout all your years.