I Want to Stop Thinking About You

The memories hurt and keep hurting. Although it is difficult for us to stop thinking about that person who is no longer part of our life, we shouldn' be overwhelmed. All we need is time.
I Want to Stop Thinking About You

Last update: 31 March, 2019

I want to stop thinking about you, but I don’t know how to. My mind seems to control me, and although I want to remove you from it, I can’t.

It’s uncomfortable. It’s not just about the memories in my head, but also emotions and feelings that aren’t positive at all.

Concerns, assumptions, questions such as “and if I had done something else” or “what would have happened if everything were different?” are also in my mind.

I don’t know how I’m going to do it, but I want to stop thinking about you once and for all.

Thoughts, come to me

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 The first step to removing someone from your head is not to ignore or turn your back on all the thoughts and ideas mixed with emotions that come to your mind.

It’s normal not to want to face them because they already hurt you too much. However, if you don’t do this, you won’t be able to stop thinking about the person who is no longer a part of your life.

  • Analyze your thoughts: think about them and notice how they make you feel and why. Ask if they’re logical and what’s causing them to come frequently to you.
  • Do you worry too much? Sometimes we doubt our decisions and choices. This is what’s called “regret.” However, you can stop this action because if you take a step back, you’ll realize that all of your concerns have no basis.
  • Consider fear: You may not stop thinking about that person out of fear of loneliness.
  • Don’t compare your life with the other person’s: Comparisons drag you into a circle of negativity which you’ll never feel comfortable and satisfied in.
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It’s important that you take these steps into account so that you can healthily accept the thoughts that come to your mind.  These steps will also allow you enjoy all benefits that they’ll give you.

I will focus my attention on other things

Once you have faced all those thoughts about the other person, they can follow its course. In other words, they’ll come to your mind and then leave.

However, many others will continue to make you feel and experience anxiety, sadness, melancholy and doubts. For these, there is another alternative: focus your attention on other things.

There’s no better technique to forget about someone than doing something new or focusing on what you like. You now have time for yourself, so dedicate all of it to yourself.

Go out with your friends, meet new people, focus on your work, plan the trip you’ve always wanted to plan, etc.

All this will make you busy and will quickly enable to stop thinking about the person you want to forget, even though they may pop up in your mind from time to time.



Maybe you’re wondering if this technique actually avoids the problem. The truth is that it doesn’t, as long as you’ve done the previously discussed step.

This is a second option that will eradicate those thoughts that are difficult to get rid of.

To stop thinking about you, I’ll stop fantasizing about you

It’s still not over. You still feel bad and you can’t completely forget the person. This happens because you continue to fantasize about them and the relationship.

When you idealize something, you daydream and develop a misleading idea about what happens. This clings strongly to your mind and you can’t stop thinking about the person, even though you want to.

In your head, there are still images of those dates, kisses, and situations that you experienced. You remember these images with a smile and then end up shedding a tear.

It’s a way of torturing yourself because you know that nothing good comes from these fantasies. They ‘re mere illusions and painful memories of something that no longer exists.

It’s important to mention that even if you follow these tips and others that work for you, time will put everything in its place.

You won’t be able to stop thinking about someone who has been important to you overnight. This requires time, and, most importantly, accepting what’s happening.


If you deny reality, complain and rejoice in your own pain, this situation will continue even longer.

Therefore, you must learn how to accept what happens to you, don’t give up and wait. Sooner or later, everything will stop being so uncomfortable.

Today, I will stop thinking about you because I have the strength and the will to do it.

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