To be able to move forward, you need to learn to settle unfinished business. This is the only way you can focus your efforts on the present and future.
If you have unfinished business with someone, sooner or later you’re bound to meet up with this person until your resolve it. This will happen until you finally cut the ties and let go of old misunderstandings, baggage, and sadness.
In one way or another, we all have something that didn’t turn out well. A past event is like a distant flare. It brings with it the flash of a memory, a word, or an element.
Psychoanalysis tells us that people usually “bury” some traumatic or uncomfortable events. You put it into a deeper level of your mind.
However, this is far from locking it up in the darkest corner of our mind’s closet. These events from our past rise like smoke through a chimney. They’re like water that overflows in a bath tub. They leave an undetectable impact on the present we live in.
It’s not easy. The things you leave unresolved follow you. They affect your personality and emotions.
For example, we could talk about a loving relationship that ended without a goodbye or even an explanation.
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We’re also talking about complex bonds with some people you know. These could be friends that you let go. These bonds could be affected by unsaid words or by situations you ran away from out of fear or indecision.
We want you to think about this.
Unfinished business is like a barrier on your life path
This is one of the most common psychological problems. It also causes you to focus on your sadness, bitterness, and even nostalgia.
Now, we want to tell you how you should confront these very common situations.
Right now, we could tell you that the best thing to do to resolve your unfinished business is to make a call, a visit, to see this person, and talk.
However, we know that this isn’t always possible.
Sometimes, we can’t do this because there are people that we can’t see again or perhaps don’t want to. This could be because they cause us too much pain.
It may also be difficult to find those who hurt us or who we let down.
What should we do in these cases? Well, the first thing is to know that all unfinished business gets resolved in the most important place first: inside ourselves.
Find balance in your mind and emotions. This is the first step for getting rid of the weight of unfinished business.
Read Also: How to Find Emotional Balance
To get rid of this baggage, you can help ourselves with these phrases. With them, you can promote an internal awakening to get new perspectives.
As we said, unfinished business should always be resolved inside you first.
Only when you have gotten rid of your anger can you get close to this person. This will let you have a final conversation to cut ties and let them go.
Only when you are calm inside will you notice that this unfinished business isn’t as important as you thought. This is because the most important thing is the present.
We want you to think about this. This way, you’ll finally be able to lock up unfinished business and let go of it for good.
As Mihály Csíkszentmihályi explains in his fluid theory, life is movement. This means letting yourself get carried away by a mind that’s capable of connecting with everyday activity. This lets you appreciate what’s important: the here and now.
Yesterday, unfinished business made part of a past that you learned from. You got a lesson that taught you to be much wiser in the present and to keep going in a mature way.
Your past wasn’t easy. However, your present can be resumed in two words: overcoming and courage. Your future should be a reflection of a beautiful word: hope.
Let go of the things you can’t fix or are already lost. Put all of your energy and confidence into what’s coming.
You are the architect of your life. You are the only and most magnificent hero of your story. Don’t allow yourself to be a slave to someone who hurt you. Don’t be a slave to the past.
Lift yourself up with a sense of responsibility to plant strength, optimism, and dignity in your present to be happier.
You have the power to achieve it.
Images courtesy of Pierre Mornet
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