True Strength Is Measured by Courage

You need to learn to put your effort into the things that are worth it, and lots of times you’ll need to let something go when you want to achieve it. This is where you have to show your real strength.
True Strength Is Measured by Courage

Last update: 30 January, 2019

Those who believe strength is measured by all the things you carry around on your back and in your heart are wrong. True strength doesn’t mean that you stay silent, give up, or endure insult and harm. A strong person confronts things, beats them and then leaves them behind.

In today’s society, the more education we receive we believe that suffering is equivalent to bravery. We also sometimes believe that saying “no” is a sign of cowardice or weakness.

Ideas like these can cause a lot of vulnerability when it comes to personal situations, causing you to turn into a shadow of yourself.

As nice as it is to receive flattery for doing so many things for others, being so “good,” or hearing how strong you are by “suffering so much for so little,” remember that everything has a price: and this time it’s your health and self-esteem.

Your true strength is your courage

A woman who cares for her children in the hopes that one day they will be able to fend for themselves has true strength. She will find the happiness she deserves after going through this difficult time.

A woman who says “enough” to abuse or cruel comments from others is strong. The person who can set their limits and cut ties because they realize they deserve better is also strong.

True strength lies in understanding your own priorities and recognizing that there are certain efforts and sacrifices that are truly worth it.

You care about the people around you and understand that sometimes, you must forget what you feel to remember what you deserve.

Girl sitting on a book

When they teach you to be weak

This sentence may have surprised you. Who teaches anyone to be weak? And furthermore, why would anyone want you if you were simply obedient and manageable?

  • There are many styles of parenting and upbringing in which the concept of obedience is implicit.
  • You need to make sure you educate your children through respect, not obedience. This last dimension comes through fear; respect, on the other hand, comes through mutual understanding and emotional intelligence.
  • The type of education that teaches you to be obedient and weak is designed to force you into being obedient to your family members or figures of authority. This is something very common in patriarchal societies.

It makes you believe that you’re more worthy of being loved if you are “obedient.” This mindset causes you to believe that you’re strong by doing what you’re told and obeying every order; by being able to say “yes” when your heart is telling you “no.”

In romantic relationships, it’s also common that one person yields to emotional blackmail. It gets to the point of turning into a fragile person, oriented to meet every need of their loved one. This is not true strength.

Dacing woman to simbolize true strength

Strength implies learning to give something up

Believe it or not, no one is going to teach you how to apply the fortress mindset.

Our society, your family, and even the world of fashion and marketing prefers you to be caring and weak. They want you to be impressionable enough to consume their products, to say yes to everything. They make you believe you’ll reach true happiness that way.

None of this will give you a real, significant, and lasting wellness. It’s possible that doing a favor for a friend will make you feel full. However, if you do it every single day, you’ll eventually realize that something isn’t feeling right.

How to achieve true strength

Set priorities and start investing your time and energies on what’s worth it, because your fortress is courage. Don’t hesitate to put these simple strategies into practice in order to learn how to be stronger.

  • Before taking action, evaluate the consequences they may have.
  • Before saying yes, think about how you’ll feel if your heart wants to say no.
  • People who spend their days in bitterness or crying in secret are not brave. Those who are brave look at life with hope, knowing that in order to be happy, decisions must be made.
  • Invest your time and effort in those who truly deserve them. Only then will you feel happy and see yourself as a truly strong person. You’ll be someone who fights every day for themselves, for your roots, dignity, and true love.

No one can tell you how to live your life or be happy. The art of personal well-being is that the decision is yours, and it reflects on your courage.

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