Tips to Enjoy a Full and Satisfying Sex Life

January 30, 2017
Maybe we're embarrassed to bring it up to our partner, but we should be able to express what we like and dislike in order to enjoy our sex life.

Do you remember your first sexual encounter? For you, sexuality was something you were imagining and fantasizing about. It was something very pleasant.

However, when you begin having relationships, you realize that having a full and satisfying sex life is not as easy as it seems.

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Sometimes it’s because we don’t know our own body and other times because we’re ashamed. Sometimes we just haven’t discovered what we really like.

If you just don’t enjoy sex, in this article we are going to discuss how to wake up this aspect of your life.

Know your body

A woman who knows her body.

For many people, knowing their body is very important. However, there are many people who don’t explore themselves, or look at, touch, or investigate their genitals.

It seems that there is a lot of modesty in today’s world. This exists not just in older people but in younger people as well. Sometimes this modesty affects what people think about masturbation. This is a healthy practice that allows people to seek pleasure and find out what they enjoy.

If we don’t do this, it’s going to be difficult to enjoy ourselves when we’re with another person. So explore yourself. Don’t be ashamed or think that you’re doing something wrong.

Communicate with your partner to enjoy your sex life

Is he hurting you? Do you want to be touched in a different way? We’re going back to the topic of shame, but this time we’re not referring to our own bodies, but to communication with our partner.

You need to tell your partner what you like. Otherwise, you’ll have an unsatisfactory sex life.

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A couple who enjoys a good sex life.

You may be lucky and enjoy your sex life now. But what other things would you like to try? Where do you want to be touched now?

Communication between partners is essential and more so when it comes to sex. Because of this, it’s important to know your body. If you don’t know what you like, you won’t be able to ask for it.

Never consider yourself an object

In the past, and in some cultures today, it was thought that the purpose of women was to create children. Fortunately, that belief is losing popularity today.

Also, you shouldn’t feel that it’s your duty to offer your body to your partner if they want to have sex when you’re not in the mood.

You also have needs and the right to say “no”. If you don’t feel like having sex, then don’t. This can make you not enjoy sex.

If you do this, you’ll never have a full and satisfying sex life. Never think that you’re an object. You have the right to say “no”.

Take advantage of all your senses

A woman exploring her body.

Missionary style? Routine sex? In order to maintain a healthy sex life, you need to try new things. Put a little spice into your encounters.

Lingerie, chocolate, different flavors… You can even try Kamasutra positions. For many it’s fun, a way to spend time together, and a way to stay in shape.

Have you heard of tantric sex? It’s also a way of experimenting.

Introducing toys and other things can help you experience new things and a new world of pleasure.

You’re a couple and you can try new things in sex. Why don’t you do them together?

Forget your complexes

Shame isn’t the only great impediment to enjoyment. Terrible complexes are another big one.

Your partner knows your body but you’ll never have healthy sex if you always have the lights turned off. Maybe you don’t experiment with different positions because you don’t want to expose certain areas of your body that you don’t like.

If you don’t like certain parts of your body, there are two solutions: you can accept them the way they are or you can do something to change them.

Why do you have such a complex if your partner likes you the way you are? The only person who isn’t liking you is you.

A couple kissing.

Have you ever made mistakes such as the ones we have mentioned above? Remember that to have a full and happy sex life, you need to keep an open mind.

Keep an open mind to discover new games, enjoy sex without complexes, and communicate without shame.

Are you ready to enjoy your sex life more now?

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